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“We Actually Had Sexual Intercourse Just 11 Times In 10 Years… I Caught Him Red Handed In Gay Sex” – Benedicta Elechi Speaks On Her First Marriage

   

 

Daddy Freeze and Benedicta Elechi have been partners for some years now. Even though the couple have a child together, their relationship is constantly being criticised because they were both married with children before they met.

Daddy Freeze and his ex-wife often talked about their turbulent marriage publicly but for the first time Benedicta who is  the C.E.O of TasteBudz Real Naija Cooking and Dictachi Foods Nigeria Ltd, is speaking publicly about why she left her marriage.

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Read an excerpt from the interview she had with LIB below.

LIB: When asked why she filed a divorce from her ex-husband, Mr. Paul Odekina of Total E&P.

Benedicta: I filed for a divorce from him because of his sexual perversion and there’s a point where you get to as a human being when you realise that something or what is your aim is never going to work.
Because when I signed a contract to marry him, I believed I was marrying a man that shared the same type of sexuality with me.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not have any issues with people that have different sexual orientation but when you come and say you want to get into a marriage contract with someone, you both have to share the same sexual orientation.

So when you get into that marriage and find out it wasn’t what you bargained for, it’s like you were tricked into the marriage. The marriage is a sham.

For example, we got married in 2002, I filed for a divorce 2012. For the period of 10-years that we were married, we actually had sexual intercourse just 11 times in 10 years.  He never let me sleep in his room, I have to stay in my own room.

He would only come to see me when he thinks we should make a baby.

Way into the marriage, I caught him red-handed in gay sex. I walked into him in our living room, at about 1:30, 1:40am with a guy I didn’t really know. But he obviously walked in with that person at that time of the night, and I walked into them in our living.

I can tell you it was a struggle. You are living in a society where as a woman you have to do everything you can to preserve your marriage. You can come out of it, you just have to pray, God can change things.

There are certain things that we need to know when God is talking to you. It’s a little bit emotional for me because there are a lot of women out there that have gone through what I went through and they can’t come out.

I’m sorry, but there are a lot of reasons I never wanted to do an interview. The pain that I went through is real and it can only take a lifetime to forget.

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LIB: Did you talk to your family or anybody about it?

Benedicta: When you feel that marriage is something both parties have to work on, You don’t want to bring a third party into it, so you can give him some time to change and pray about it.

And this is him begging you constantly, don’t leave me. If you do that am going to kill myself. I will commit suicide, I don’t want you to tell my parents or your parents about it. I promise you I’m going to change.

You would desperately believe that this person is going to change because you want your marriage to work, and you just find that the years are going by, you are in it, you can’t come out.

Who do you really want to tell? It’s a stigma and then you have kids, you don’t want them to be laughed at in school.

LIB: But do have any evidence to back up your claims he was in a gay relationship while you were married to him?

Benedicta: There were some text messages I saw on his phone which he sent to a man he actually brought home for dinner I made for them.

When I saw the text messages on his phone, I was livid. I had to confront him with it. You can’t bring someone to the house and tell me he’s a guest that I should entertain him, and this is actually what you do, this is the kind of relationship you have with this person.

Why are you punishing me, and why are you doing this to me. If you know this marriage is a sham, then let me go.

When I saw the text I had to wake up from the couch. I confronted him and he went all crazy on me. He said I have no right to pick up his phone.  I told him I had no airtime on my phone and wanted to make a call with his. He said I have no right to go through his phone.

I said to him, is this what you really do, you would bring somebody to the house, for me to feed for dinner and this is it. You are in a sexual relationship with this guy.”

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73 Comments

73 Comments

  1. Kelechi Ezinne Sarah

    Kelechi Ezinne Sarah

    January 23, 2018 at 7:04 am

    Whatever she wants to gain from this publicity.Your ex husband has moved on so do your self a favor and move on.You had 3 kids with him remember.

    Is Freeze even better?that one with a loose tongue.

    • Oluchi Aguocha

      Oluchi Aguocha

      January 23, 2018 at 11:11 am

      She is happy with her present hubby, that is the basic thing. And she is healthy and strong for her kids period.

    • Reby B Eno-Ud

      Reby B Eno-Ud

      January 23, 2018 at 11:19 am

      Loose tongue,yeah he’s a man with a loose tongue

    • Ade Adeola

      Ade Adeola

      January 23, 2018 at 12:20 pm

      Its better she keeps shut that gay community is very tite she opens her mouth and say rubbish she is in for it. So lock up babe and move on dont even say u had a gay husband its dirty to ur personality why did u say it out? Why?????

    • Ebere Hopewell Eze

      Ebere Hopewell Eze

      January 23, 2018 at 12:49 pm

      Loose tongue hubby is better than gay hubby

    • Lilian Ferdinand

      Lilian Ferdinand

      January 23, 2018 at 6:55 pm

      Kelechi ezinne Sarah am sure u would rather have a gay husband than have the one with “loose tongue ” right?

  2. Davidson Hadassah Sharon

    Davidson Hadassah Sharon

    January 23, 2018 at 7:14 am

    Madam freeze ex… we know freeze has his bad side but coming out to say this is bad from you. Allow the man be, he has moved on, you should too.

  3. Evangel Oby Ornguga

    Evangel Oby Ornguga

    January 23, 2018 at 7:33 am

    who knows if its true

    • Osineye Kemi

      Osineye Kemi

      January 23, 2018 at 7:47 am

      That’s irrelevant. Everyone ones their own truth and shouldn’t be trivialised once they speak up

  4. Obinna Johnson

    Obinna Johnson

    January 23, 2018 at 7:47 am

    Cheap lies

  5. Haleemah Taofique

    Haleemah Taofique

    January 23, 2018 at 7:51 am

    I’m honestly surprised with people’s view on this. It’s as if they are telling her to suffer in silence. When she kept quiet, she was a bad woman and when she said her piece she’s devil incarnate.

  6. Pearl Chimamaka

    Pearl Chimamaka

    January 23, 2018 at 7:52 am

    why didn’t she say this earlier ?

    • Favour Chibuike

      Favour Chibuike

      January 23, 2018 at 11:50 am

      Because she is waiting for his change

    • Jane Dave

      Jane Dave

      January 24, 2018 at 5:00 am

      Waiting for you to change ? They had not been together for the past for more than 2yrs, I think someone bought her to say this.

  7. Happy Oyadongha Pere

    Happy Oyadongha Pere

    January 23, 2018 at 7:54 am

    Wats re u guys saying? I don’t think dis lady has any reason to lie, in every story dere is an atom of truth

  8. Nnenna Gareth

    Nnenna Gareth

    January 23, 2018 at 8:06 am

    Am so disappointed at what some women are saying here. Let’s forget Freeze personality here, if he’s good, bad, or worse than her “ex” marrying a gay is not what any woman should pray for, and all those women here blaming her for leaving the marriage may you not marry a gay and have a man as a rival in your home

    • Josephine Ashiple

      Josephine Ashiple

      January 23, 2018 at 10:32 am

      My thoughts exactly. Women that share their heartbreaking experiences on social media are so brave👍

    • Joseph Eddie

      Joseph Eddie

      January 23, 2018 at 12:05 pm

      Lol pls did u open the link to read???

    • Ade Adeola

      Ade Adeola

      January 23, 2018 at 12:17 pm

      No 1is blaming her she stayed long to pack what was she expecting a change noooo its an addiction

    • Osogba Rume

      Osogba Rume

      January 23, 2018 at 4:21 pm

      Is the first husband that is a gay not daddy Freeze. Pls we should try to open the link before we comment

  9. Edith Aminu

    Edith Aminu

    January 23, 2018 at 8:15 am

    He has a loosed tongue bcos he showed u proof ur pastor is a fraud, Nigerians,,,,,ds woman must has gone tru hell pls let beoooooo

  10. Isabella Abudulahi

    Isabella Abudulahi

    January 23, 2018 at 8:23 am

    Omg there is no way I’m believing this story, she is trying to say that she has been counting her sexual intercourse. She is a bloody liar

    • Olayemi Olaseile Adegbayo

      Olayemi Olaseile Adegbayo

      January 23, 2018 at 8:25 am

      pray you don’t be in such situation.

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 8:26 am

      Issokay

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 8:27 am

      This Couple used to love themselves so much, Madam it baffles me how you even believe such

    • Joy Esene

      Joy Esene

      January 23, 2018 at 8:27 am

      It happens that man must have even done an evil covenant

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 8:29 am

      Joy Esene there is no way you can be married to someone you love for a whole 10 years and you will be counting sexual intercourse no way

    • Joy Esene

      Joy Esene

      January 23, 2018 at 8:32 am

      My dear when the devil decide to bless you the conditions he gives is frustrating. As for this woman who spoke up we shouldn’t trivalise her side of the story

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 8:37 am

      Sweet heart, you see all these celebrity and their Ex they love attention. They can cook up any story and tell the world I hardly believe anything they say. I can’t be married to the love of my life and start counting how many times we made it shows she never loved the man she was there for a reason and the man finds out and sent her away lemme tell something most ladies always want to be on the helpless side when its their fault that their marriage didn’t work always hear from the two sides of the story before believing anything.

    • Perpetua Adannia

      Perpetua Adannia

      January 23, 2018 at 8:46 am

      Baby girl Isabella Abudulahi, for her to count it it must have been something very serious. It must have been bad. And u know some women can keep record. If u have a husband who only makes love to u two times a month, y won’t u b able to count it

    • Okonji Ifeanyi Cynthia

      Okonji Ifeanyi Cynthia

      January 23, 2018 at 9:03 am

      I agree with you Isabella Abudulahi

    • Timi-Powiede Bueleimo

      Timi-Powiede Bueleimo

      January 23, 2018 at 9:04 am

      Perpetua Adannia,u are right women can keep record, count on v important things…

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 9:04 am

      Lemme share a picture of what she wrote

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 9:05 am

    • Perpetua Adannia

      Perpetua Adannia

      January 23, 2018 at 9:05 am

      My dear if pipo tell u d impossible things they undergo in marriage u will forever wish to remain single

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 9:07 am

      It was even a Contract Marriage, like what I said earlier if you don’t love him you will count the sexual intercourse and of course I was right so she is trying to say she knew he was gay but still entered the marriage

    • Isabella Abudulahi

      Isabella Abudulahi

      January 23, 2018 at 9:09 am

      My dear that’s why as a Single Lady you need to be ready for marriage, marriage is not for children but people who are willing to forgive, endure and love more

  11. Joy Esene

    Joy Esene

    January 23, 2018 at 8:29 am

    I don’t doubt this story. shit happens, it might even be an evil convenant he made to meet with his wife once a year.

  12. Nezianya Lilian Uzoamaka

    Nezianya Lilian Uzoamaka

    January 23, 2018 at 8:31 am

    Both people that read n didn’t read are ranting… smh. Go to work you’re late🏃🏃🏃

  13. Mavis Uche

    Mavis Uche

    January 23, 2018 at 8:40 am

    Guilty conscience

  14. Evelyn Itoya

    Evelyn Itoya

    January 23, 2018 at 8:55 am

    Am tired of this Facebook stories, I beg let me concentrate on my work jare.

  15. Faith Aiwonodagbon- Ako

    Faith Aiwonodagbon- Ako

    January 23, 2018 at 8:55 am

    Uhmm! Unfolding mess.,..

  16. Tommie Pat

    Tommie Pat

    January 23, 2018 at 9:54 am

    Its bad to have a female rival…now its a male one????
    OMG😱.
    Woman own sef beta.

  17. Maudlinepac Ekubo

    Maudlinepac Ekubo

    January 23, 2018 at 9:58 am

    How come, she had three children with just 10 times of sex, just asking

  18. Anabel Paradise

    Anabel Paradise

    January 23, 2018 at 10:42 am

    Nonsense if he is a prostitute is the duty for you to change him from gay to normal couple but since you can’t cast out his evil spirit live it is not your spirit another woman will help him out . you are a bad wife for not changing him you no try . some women don’t no for better for worst hmmm.

  19. Ade Adeola

    Ade Adeola

    January 23, 2018 at 11:01 am

    Uve gained alot of experience u knw gay men well. U stayed long to pack 10 times in 11years hum babe hummm

  20. Chidinma Lovelyn

    Chidinma Lovelyn

    January 23, 2018 at 11:15 am

    She said in 10years of marriage, they had sex 11 times, make una read well before mixing the story…

    By the way, she did well by leaving the marriage. Cheating with females is causing alot of problems in marriage talk more of being GAY… This is so disgusting. The worst thing can happen in marriage is marrying a HOMO..

    A country where HOMO is illegal, this kind of things happens, so una way be wife, dont suspect females alone ooo, watch out too for males, because your husbands may be GAY too, it’s possible

  21. Ebere Hopewell Eze

    Ebere Hopewell Eze

    January 23, 2018 at 12:55 pm

    Haters of freeze are the ones doubting and criticizing her. Una brain dey pain una

  22. Jane Irabor

    Jane Irabor

    January 23, 2018 at 6:05 pm

    The devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know

  23. Jane Irabor

    Jane Irabor

    January 23, 2018 at 6:07 pm

    Who cares that’s your business

  24. Engr Amy Evelyn Nwabufo

    Engr Amy Evelyn Nwabufo

    January 23, 2018 at 9:00 pm

    Must she expose the sordid details? Who asked her? Rubbish!

  25. Anita Ubah Dimaku

    Anita Ubah Dimaku

    January 24, 2018 at 10:18 am

    Am sure dis happened for real,its true u Neva can tell with MEN!

  26. BlessinMhz Brownny Simon

    BlessinMhz Brownny Simon

    January 26, 2018 at 6:55 pm

    Mo fo ooooh I cnt believe

  27. BlessinMhz Brownny Simon

    BlessinMhz Brownny Simon

    January 26, 2018 at 6:56 pm

    Mo fo oooooh I cnt believe

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