Dementia is a chronic or persistent disorder of the mental processes caused by brain disease or injury and marked by memory disorders, personality changes and impaired reasoning.
Taking care of a sick adult can be a daunting task and for Uriel Oputa, even though she loves her mum so much to do anything for her, she confesses that its not an easy thing.
In her new vlog titled, “I’m sorry Mama,” Uriel shares how she got tired one day and lost it. She snapped at her mom and now she regrets it.
Yesterday was crazy. My mum has dementia and she needs a lot of assistance and a lot of care. Going to the toilet, cooking… yesterday was a testing time for me. yesterday, I literally did not sleep. I went to bed at 11pm and my mum will… with dementia, you keep asking the same questions over and over again because you are confused by your surroundings. So, my mum kept askinmg me the same question over and over again and that went on till like 2am.
Then she woke me up at 2am that she wanted to go to the toilet. At 3:30am, she woke me up again that she wanted to go to the toilet. 5:30am, she woke me up that she wanted to go to the toilet. And yesterday, I felt ashamed of myself because I found myself trying to lose. In all these years, my mum has never seen me lost in this way.
I wasn’t aggressive but in my head, I was angry; angry at my mum. I was angry because the next day, I’ll have to wake up and before I go out to hustle, I’ll have to wake her, wash her, cook her food, breakfast and lunch. I have to make sure she’s well taken care of. I was angry because I didn’t sleep, I did not rest and I was getting up to cook and I was tired.
So I was just angry. I have never been so angry to the point where my mum said to me, “Don’t be angry with me. calm your spirit down.” And I said to her, “No, leave me alone.”
That was like 5:30am and I remember I couldn’t sleep after that. I felt bad because I answered her back and I told her I wasn’t gonna be calm. It made me feel really bad.