We Are Breaking The Culture Of Silence Over Rape But What Shall We Do About The Culture Of “It Is A Family Issue”?


It is good to know that the culture of silence over rape is dying by the day but what happens to a culture of “it is a family issue”?

A twitter user, Fateemah Habeebah shared how a mother who was seeking justice for her 14-year old daughter who was raped, turned around to say it had been solved amicably.

Is this not encouraging the culture of rape? The mental state of a child shouldn’t be jeopardised for relationships, no matter who the perpetrator is.

She tweeted,

I am angry right now. Yesterday, I heard a disturbing news that a fifty something years old Imam raped a 14 years old, accepted that he raped her and bragged that nothing will happen to him . When I spoke with the mother around 5.0 clock yesterday,

she was crying and asking for justice , that she needs help . I called people and we tried to fix an early appointment for her . What was I told when I called back ? he is now her husband.

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I was told that it’s now a family issue and the parents have given their consent for the Imam to marry their daughter ! a 14 years old girl and that’s because she is pregnant. I tried to explain that she is a minor and that it is illegal for her to get married.

I tried to explain that rape has psychological effects but it all fell on deaf hears . Her parent do not want everyone talking about her. So tell me, how do we fight this menace ?

Same thing that happened once in Akoko-Edo LGA of Edo State when I was there for conference . The family wants justice this minute and there next minute they’re smiling with the perpetrator’s parents because they’ve settled them with a certain amount of money.

Hence you find yourself making fruitless effort to make them appear in court for their testimonies. It’s really sad

I’ve informed the commisioner of police. Fixed appointment with the state ministry of women affairs. We are getting there. I will let you know how it goes.

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Sequel to my previous post Thank you all for responding . I have been trying to find a solution to the issue all day . First , the Imam has been relieved of his duty as the community Imam and sent packing by the youths and the elders in the community .

So, we can’t trace him for now . The girl’s parent became too embarrassed and they packed to another state this morning . Both the victim and the perpetuator of the crime can’t be traced at least for now . (Still making effort to find them though.)

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