Open Letter

An open letter to the friend who gave me a shoe but want my leg in return


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I remember the day we reunited on Facebook after not seeing each other since we left secondary school. I put a sad status on my Facebook, and you contacted me asking me if everything was okay, I opened up to you and said I was struggling financially and as we were speaking my baby was in the hospital. You chastised me for putting a depressing status on Facebook and encouraged me to be prayerful, I thanked you and we ended the chat.

Two days later you sent me message asking for my bank account and immediately you sent me N50, 000. I was over happy, I called you and thanked you. You added me on whatsapp, you also added me to the chat group of our secondary school set. I checked your Facebook page and saw you are doing well for yourself; I will not lie, I was happy to be connected to an old classmate doing well.

You started chatting with me on whatsapp, you bashed my husband for not having a job even after I explained that he had just lost it and he is looking for another one. You queried me for having two children when my salary is just N70, 000. I told you that the second one was not planned, and then you started calling me and my husband names for being irresponsible. You asked me if I have ever been out of the country, and when I said no, you said my husband is not a real man if at my age I have not even been to Ghana. All these, I stomached because I felt you were just trying to motivate me to do better in life.

You started sending me on errands. The first one you did, you called me at 8am on a Saturday and said I should go and pick something from someone at Ikorodu and take it to another person in Festac. I dropped my children with my neighbour and jumped on the road, it was not convenient but I did it because you gave me 50k when my child was sick. I carried out three of this type of errands for you. The fourth time, I said no, because there was no one around to leave my children with and you were very angry, you called me an ingrate. I was really pained but I didn’t say anything.

On the chat group of our secondary school set, someone posted that she was getting married and invited all of us. I typed ‘congratulations’. You called me immediately and started screaming on the phone that you forbid me from going to the wedding because the lady antagonizes you on the group. You said if I go you will block me on all platforms and will never help me again, then you cut the phone before I could even respond. I was not even planning to go; I have not even talked to the person in many years.

I shed tears after that call; I asked myself do I want to continue putting up with your condescension and abuse forever, because of the money you gave me. Is my self-esteem and peace of mind not worth more than 50k?  I waited till the weekend when I received my salary  and I transferred your 50k back to you.

I knew you got it because you blocked me on whatsapp and all social media immediately.



  1. Victoria Harold Wilson

    Victoria Harold Wilson

    June 12, 2018 at 12:52 pm


  2. Cynthia Ugo Mcstephen

    Cynthia Ugo Mcstephen

    June 12, 2018 at 2:03 pm

    I swear I’ve been in a shoe close to this! People are something else

  3. Juliet Enifome

    Juliet Enifome

    June 12, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    God help us

  4. Yetunde Akinyemi

    Yetunde Akinyemi

    June 12, 2018 at 5:00 pm

    That kind friend na frienemy

  5. Nafeesah Bint Abubakar-Sedenu

    Nafeesah Bint Abubakar-Sedenu

    June 12, 2018 at 5:40 pm

    Haba wa! My heart was paining reading dis post! U did well by sending her back d money… Jst because of 50k, heaven wan come down 😬😬😬

  6. Erus Onome

    Erus Onome

    June 12, 2018 at 5:41 pm

    Sad though…
    But I know when to trash toxic people…. anyone that will always ring it to your hearing how low you are to them and how good and great of a helper they are to you, are not worthy of your honor, stay off them…
    This your so called friend is looking for a worshipper and someone she can other around, she want a puppet….

  7. Uduakabasi Nwaozo

    Uduakabasi Nwaozo

    June 12, 2018 at 6:03 pm

    I know this experience. I have had a friend like this before. It took the grace of God for my eyes to be open and i pulled away. This is not friendship…it is something else that has no definition!

  8. Lagos Ebikaboere Betty

    Lagos Ebikaboere Betty

    June 12, 2018 at 6:46 pm

    Thank God she cut u fast fast

  9. Mercy Olajumoke Iyiola Akande

    Mercy Olajumoke Iyiola Akande

    June 12, 2018 at 6:47 pm

    That is people for you. If you tell them your problems, they mock you with it..

  10. Gloria Ukwu

    Gloria Ukwu

    June 12, 2018 at 6:48 pm

    Imagine if this one becomes a mom in law not to talk of first lady.please sister’s watch out don’t be the sister in law of this type of lady.

  11. Cynthia Chialuka Adeniji

    Cynthia Chialuka Adeniji

    June 12, 2018 at 8:27 pm

    That’s what I call fake friend

  12. Alasan Niniola Mariam

    Alasan Niniola Mariam

    June 12, 2018 at 9:51 pm

    Hmmmm nawa oh

  13. Ama Aghama M. Jesurobo

    Ama Aghama M. Jesurobo

    June 12, 2018 at 10:26 pm

    Good riddance…

  14. Adeniran Victoria Oluwatosin

    Adeniran Victoria Oluwatosin

    June 13, 2018 at 2:41 pm

    Very brave action you took Sis. Look inward your life is far better than hers… You have a lovely family which cannot be bought with money

  15. Ogunjobi Olamide

    Ogunjobi Olamide

    June 14, 2018 at 12:26 am

    I gbadun ur way of eventually putting her in her place. No one should play God over another.


    Akindutire Temitope

    June 27, 2018 at 12:08 am

    I read d story and i was embittered.
    Dont let ur situation press down ur self esteem.
    U have a family DAT can Neva b bought .
    Embrace your family,build up ur self esteem in order to avoid trash like dis coming up again.
    U handled d situation well.

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