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Not Many People Agree That This Woman Was Brave to Call off Her Wedding on the D-Day

   

A popular writer on social media, Eketi Edima Ette tweeted the story of a woman who decided not to go on with her wedding on the D-day. According to her, the woman never loved the man but only continued with the courtship because she was told that the man was good.

Describing her as brave, Eketi says she understood the lady’s decision, adding that our culture of marital pressure and shaming people into remaining in an unhealthy relationship isn’t a good one.

Not many people agreed with Eketi that the lady was brave. To many of them, she is an adult and could have made her decision before the D-day. Calling off the wedding on the D-day was humiliating the man, friends and family and wasting the money spent.

“If it was a man that pulled out on the wedding day, would you have described him as being brave?” they asked Eketi

What do you think?

Read her tweets below

“I once watched a bride stop cold on the steps of a church and say, “This is more than cold feet. I can’t marry him.” At the time, I only saw her fear. Today, at last, I understand. I’m amazed by her bravery. *sigh* Doing the right thing- It’s hard, it hurts, but it must be done.

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She didn’t love him, wasn’t attracted to him and they had very little in common. But he was a good man and nearly everyone kept telling her not to let him go, that she’d adjust in time. But she knew better.

Now I have to make a thread because of the replies from some men. I wasn’t expecting the anger and condemnation. It’s easy to hold your phone and type hard words. Until you find yourself in the situation. Be honest. We don’t always do the right thing at the right time.

Or do what we really need to do. Many of us studied or are still studying courses our parents picked out. Or working jobs we hate to do just to please family/society. Because we couldn’t stand the heat that came with making the hard decisions.

In doing these, we lose time, money, opportunities, etc. We even hurt people. It is the way of life. Now, I don’t know about you guys, but I’ve been in situations where everything looked perfect but my guts told me otherwise.

People urged me on because the person/business/situation looked perfect. Like this case. He was a good man. But he wasn’t the one for her. People told her he was, he too. Could she have quit earlier? For sure.

Would it have been easier? No. Because we live in a society where calling off a wedding ceremony is almost a taboo. And no matter how hard we try, we constantly battle with the ‘what will people say’ syndrome. So, until you’ve stared parents/society in the face and followed your heart/guts, don’t say this isn’t bravery.

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Until you’ve never lost anything because you always got it right, don’t knock this too hard. A little understanding, that’s all I ask. Oh, I also feel the irrepressible urge to add that when the dust settled, he was grateful she didn’t go through with it. He married someone else ten months later. She married someone else two years later.

Judging by some replies, my parents should call me, “selfish, barbaric, callous, insensitive…” I mean, they spent millions to ensure I became a barrister yet I refused to practice the law because writing makes me happy.

Imagine their horror when I quit my job at the Supreme Court. Why didn’t I quit while filling my JAMB form? Selfish me. Our culture of marital pressure and shaming people into remaining in such situations isn’t a good one. Just so you know.”

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