“If I was taller, I would have been more beautiful. If I was….”
Many of us are guilty of such thoughts. While this may not be wrong in itself, allowing it to consume us so much that we do not see any good in how we look or what we can do may become harmful.
Sharing her own experiences, Nollywood actress, Rosy Meurer says it is better we focus on what our bodies can do rather than how it looks.
Now, I am going to start with myself. I have been a victim in the past of allowing Instagram ruin my self-esteem. Most times, I would go on social media and look at the face tuning, photoshopped, unreal images of what is a hit photo and compare myself, wishing and stressing over how I could be more of what I see.
God had plans for me so he revealed to me, through someone’s life. One of the people I would look at and admire and compare myself to on social media. I got the chance to be close to that person and that alone changed my entire mind, views and reasoning. I got to see behind the scene of the person’s life, I got to see the preparation before the IT picture was posted on Instagram.
I got to see the processing of the picture, I got to see the clear picture. how one would go out of their way and displease themselves to make their lives on social media the dream life. I was able to weigh both lives. The Instagram life and the real life. I was aware. In real life, I was 100 times better and fresher. To think that I almost went crazy trying to be like a mere modified image.
Now that being said, I know there are thousands of people that are still victims of this. I just want you to know that you can rather focus on what your body is designed to do instead of how it looks.
We tend to beat up ourselves, getting frustrated, getting depressed, wishing and asking God unnecessary and ungrateful questions rather than appreciating the fact that your legs you’re comparing and looking down on can take you from point A to point B, you are able to run and be active.
Your eyes that you hate so much can see very clearly, your nose that you feel is too big or too wide can smell well. Your boobs that are too small can breastfeed your child. Having appreciation for the function of our bodies is really important.
I am not trying to condemn or judge anyone. I just want someone out there to know that having life alone is the greatest gift anyone can ask for. Don’t ever look down on yourself or think anyone is better than you. The best body doesn’t live the longest, the richest people cannot buy life, the most famous and most talked about celebrities that you want to be like don’t have peace.
Be who you are, God doesn’t make mistakes. Your flaws might be part of God’s plans and blessings in your life. Be original so your blessings don’t pass you by. Focus on growth, happiness and your loved ones. Life is one; you will never have another change to make it right. The time is NOW. Vanity upon vanity, my love is vanity.