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Funmi Akingbade: Boobs As Vital Sex Commodities – Part 2

   

Besides itching, redness can be a sign of a skin allergy. If you notice this, ease the discomfort with a cortisone cream and then switch detergent and soap brands to see if that makes a difference. Should you detect a patch of red, scaly skin, you may have a skin yeast infection. Applying an anti-fungal cream to kill the yeast will bail you out. Alternatively, if a scaly sore appears on your nipple and does not heal, visit a free breast cancer information centre close to your area. It can indicate a form of breast cancer.

Sometime ago, a group of researchers came down hard on breast self-examination. The thinking was that women shouldn’t bother doing that because there is no evidence that checking your breasts on your own increases breast cancer survival rates. It was believed that self-examinations could create a lot of anxiety. Many major cancer organisations and women’s health experts have, however, ignored this, countering that it is crucial for women to examine their breasts on a regular basis.

First, an estimated 20 per cent of breast cancers is identified (and treated) after a woman notices something about the feel or appearance of her breasts. Second, because women in their 20s, 30s and now 40s are not advised to undergo annual mammograms, a self-exam is the only diagnostic tool younger women have to help them detect the disease. (Although only about five per cent of breast cancer cases occur in women younger than 40, when it does hit younger women, it tends to be more deadly).

So take control of your health by staying on course with monthly self-exams. If you have never done a breast self-exam before or feel like you need a refresher course, follow the easy steps below. The best time to do it is during the week after your period because that is when breast tissue is at its smoothest.

Step 1: Stand in front of a mirror without your bra on, your shoulders straight and your arms down at your sides. View each breast in the mirror, as well as directly by looking down at them and make sure there is no swelling, redness, wrinkle, and or dimpling of the skin.
Step 2: Raise your arms over your head and check for the same signs again along the skin. (With your arms up, breast irregularities may be easier to see.)
Step 3: Squeeze each of your nipple gently, making sure no fluid or blood comes out.
Step 4: Keep your first few fingers flat and together and use a firm touch to check for any lumps, bumps or bulges. Begin at the nipple and move in larger and larger circles until you reach your cleavage and chest as well as your underarm, where many cancers begin.

Here are some complaints by women about their breasts
“My breasts are sagging and soft. Whenever I want to wear my dress, I hide from my husband. I feel less sexy,” says Mrs. Suleiman, from Cameroon. With so many women, gravity-predisposed activities make breasts sag faster and feel soft, especially if yours are particularly squashy. It most likely means that you have a lot more fat in your breasts than glandular tissues. These glandular tissues help maintain firmness. Besides, the ligaments that support your breasts may have become stretched out like an old underwear.

Other droop-inducers include bad breast-feeding posture, excessive weight loss, and badly made bra. In addition, energetic dancing without proper support of the breasts may result in sagging. Since sagging is a normal incident in women, not much can be done to prevent it, but much can be done to reduce and delay it. Wearing a bra made with adjustable straps and (if you are at least a B cup), under wire will take excess weight off the ligaments. When you work out, put on a sports bra with moulded cups to prevent unnecessary bouncing.

Don’t focus on how your breasts appear, but how hot, tormenting, provoking, tantalising you can make them look for your husband and how sexy they can make you feel. The truth of the matter is that many husbands get captivated by the way their wives breasts are packaged and branded. While in the bedroom, wear ultra hot push-up bras, and while in bed, advocate sex positions that allows your husband stimulate, arouse, and awaken your breasts. When your breasts are awakened to a level, you can easily reach orgasm with the same breasts you think can’t ‘perform.’

However, when you engage in some sex positions like doggie-style or spooning, make sure you put on a light bra to help keep them in pack.
“My breasts are shaped funny, like long-maize-shape,” says Mama Jumbo, who thinks that may be the reason her husband would not touch her breasts, no matter what. As with faces and bodies, breasts come in a ton of different shapes. There is nothing any individual can do to change them permanently. Nevertheless, you can alter their appearance by investing in the right bra. A slightly padded contour bra that reshapes the breasts by pushing them up or creating cleavage can mask whatever shape issue you are uncomfortable with. You can try out bra styles that come with moulded cups, which will make your breasts look more round.
Katharine worries that her areola are too big and dark. Areolas are, however, the bull’s-eye-like darker patches of skin that surrounds a woman’s nipples. Just like the breast size and shape, their appearance varies in shape, size and colour. The darker your skin tone, the darker your areolas. Pregnancy hormones also make them dark and they may stay that way after birth. Instead of worrying about your areolas, just find a way of making them sexier. The truth is most husbands find areolas of any shape and size to be a turn-on, even when they don’t say so.

Some wives want to know if squeezing of their breasts too hard during sex can alter the shape and size of their breasts. Not really, unless the man has to use superhuman force while squeezing them. Even at that, the breasts will not change in size. You may need to tell him to be gentle on your breasts for you to be aroused by his cuddling, embrace, caresses or squeezes.
“I have stretch marks all over my breasts. They make me wear bra all the time and my husband always wants me to go top-less at home,” says a reader.

Stretch marks are thin red or whitish streaks that often appear when the skin on the breasts has been stretched by a growth surge, such as during puberty and pregnancy or after gaining weight. Most married women get them, but how many you develop depends on your skin’s elasticity and genetics. The bad news is this: they never go away though studies say using a Retin-A cream daily for a few months will help reduce the redness of the new marks. Luckily, over the years, they will fade closer to your normal pigment. Don’t get too worked up about your husband noticing them. Men aren’t exactly known for being detail-oriented. When you take off your top, his eyes most likely widen at the big-picture sight of your breast that will take him to wonderland and not on the insignificant thin stretch marks.

Many married women are on the verge of the decision whether to go for a breast surgery or not based on their husband’s wishes and approval. Nevertheless, I’ll like to state the result of breast enlargement surgery and with that, you can make up your mind on what to do.
Possibility of losing sensitivity. After a breast implantation, it is not unusual to lose feeling in your entire breasts, but about five per cent of patients experience numbness in their nipples. This may occur if their nerves are cut or stretched during surgery.
Can reduction surgery cause breasts to end up in different sizes or shapes? Absolutely yes! The breasts may become unbalanced and irregular if the surgeon does not have a good eye for aesthetics or is inexperienced or if two surgeons work simultaneously on opposite sides. Do implants make it harder to detect a breast-cancer lump? It depends. Very large implants (more than two-cup-size bigger than your real breasts) that are placed directly under your breast tissue and skin, instead of beneath your pectoral muscles, could conceal a lump.

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Over the past 20 years, Funmi Akingbade has run a successful marriage and sex therapy practice. Her work embraces some of the most effective and natural herbal treatment methods along with various coaching and counselling programmes. She desires to see the healing of marriages through the bedroom and her website is designed to be a helpful resource tool for valued readers of her audience.

She blogs at:http://funmiakingbade.com

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