Just like every newly married woman, Ajibola Otubusin looked forward to getting pregnant immediately after her wedding, but what she didn’t know was that she would have to wait for 40 years. She shared her story in an interview with Punch.
Ajibola got married on December 10, 1977, at the age of 25 and she expected to bear children but she started noticing she was unusually becoming sick. On visiting the University College Hospital, Ibadan, she was referred to an Ear, Nose and Throat specialist, who told her that she was getting sick because she was worrying too much about having a baby.
She knew she had a problem with her thyroid, but her doctor insisted she would get over it. She was later diagnosed of hepatomegaly, including five other health problems. In search of cure to her ailments, Ajibola was sent to India, where she was diagnosed of cystic lesion, which had overtaken her liver. She also wasn’t responding to drugs. She was also diagnosed of sessile polyps in her colons.
After a series of treatments, an artificial insemination was tried on her, since she didn’t have a serious infertility problem but it was unsuccessful. Ajibola kept on seeking treatment to her health and infertility problems. She tried the IVF procedure and this time, it was successful.
In a chat with Punch, the 66-year old retired nurse, talked about her reaction when she was told that she was pregnant and the challenges she faced.
When she discovered she was pregnant
It was on February 22, 2018, I discovered it, but I still had some health issues. I was still seeing blood, so I didn’t believe it. I went for a scan and the doctor asked whether I was doing any stressful work. He asked me, ‘Do you want to lose this pregnancy?’ I asked, ‘Which pregnancy?’
He then showed me the monitor and I noticed some activities in my womb. I said, ‘Wow, this might be my time!’ I breathed a sigh of relief on that day. My joy became fully made.
Meanwhile, I still told my husband not to think too much of it, maybe the doctor didn’t want to make us sad, that’s why he said I was pregnant. But my husband encouraged me. He had always stood by me.
It is normal in our environment that if you are childless, people would call you various names. But what helped me is my husband’s faithfulness and support, as well as my own positive attitude. I don’t easily get angry over issues. When people told me something negative or called me names, I would just go back home and pray instead of crying.
Some people in my husband’s family confronted me, ‘Release your husband, let him go. Stop tying him down, you are a witch.’ But I usually told them jokingly that I was not tying my husband down. As a matter of fact, if he wanted to marry as many as 10 wives, I told them I didn’t care. It’s even better for me because I would have some peace.
My husband taught in the university and where he worked, he could have also married any female lecturer. But he is a devout Christian. I remember a man in his family once told me, ‘You married the best person in our family. If you had married someone like me, I would have left you a long time ago.’ I told him, ‘Thank you, sir.’”
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