Men often say that women are a mystery but the truth is that men are just as, if not even more, difficult to understand as women. To understand men better and therefore have better relationships with them, it helps to have a little background information about them.
Not only am I a certified life and relationship coach, I also grew up with 3 older brothers so I definitely have a lot of information to give you and a lot of advice about men that will help you. In this video, I’m going to be talking about the best advice I’ve ever received about men. If you’re interested in that, then you should watch this video. Ready? Let’s get into it.
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The best advice I’ve ever received about men is to let them prove themselves to you. That means not relying on just what they say but what they do. Let men go out of their way for you. Let him make himself uncomfortable for you. And, by the way, a guy buying you a gift or spending money on you doesn’t necessarily mean that he likes you. If a guy has 5 million naira and spends five hundred thousand naira on a phone for you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he likes you but if a guy has one hundred naira and he gives you eighty naira out of it, that guy is crazy about you. Let men prove themselves to you.
The next piece of advice I have about men is that you should take everything they say with a pinch of salt. That is related to the first tip I already gave but this one is slightly different. In this case, it means that you shouldn’t believe every single thing they say, one hundred percent. I know some men are not going to like that but see, it’s the truth. Particularly if you just met a guy or if you haven’t known him for that long. Don’t take every single thing that he says to heart.
Men will say and do anything to get what it is that they want. In this case, what they want is you and so, they will do and say all sorts. Once they’ve gotten what they want, they lose interest so don’t take everything that he says to heart. A guy can say that he loves you but omit to mention that he has a fiancée. He can say that he is desperate to meet your parents but then he changes the date so many times that you get fed up. Never take anything a guy says one hundred percent to heart. Take everything he says with a pinch of salt.
The final piece of advice I have about men that is one of the best that I’ve ever received is to have a life of your own. Have a life of your own outside of the man in your life. Some women rely on men for everything. They rely on him for friendship, for advice, for money, for everything so when that man leaves or if something happens to him, their entire life crashes. Don’t let that be you.
When you have a life of your own, your own hobbies, your own interests, your own source of income, it makes you more excited about life. It makes you more exciting and it makes him more interested in you. Have a life outside of him. It keeps him interested in you for longer.
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Lape Soetan is a UK-certified relationship coach. She helps single women over 30 attract and keep the right relationship while building lives they love. Ms Soetan is the author of several books and details of her work can be found on www.lapesoetan.com