Motherhood is not something many women may understand until they become mothers themselves. Then, they get to understand the reason for everything their mother had done to them. While some are good, some may be bad, and that’s to note that our mothers aren’t perfect in any way, moreover, it’s all for our good.
So, we asked some Naija women the one thing they will say to their mothers, out of the million and one things they would like to tell her, either to praise or correct her, if given the opportunity and the answers we got are quite amazing.
6 Naija women share their responses below.
I will tell her: Mama, its okay to act the way you act! You have shouldered the emotions all alone.
A whole lot of things happened, and she pulled through. She deserves the whole wide world❤
I can’t remember what year exactly, but I know we just moved to the South-West from faraway North! Maiduguri for that matter. We couldn’t speak or understand any other language aside Hausa and English.
Dad fell sick. He was 5% close to dying. Family were over my mum to distribute us everywhere, that she can’t take care of us all alone. She told them in her usual tone “Jesu mi wa laaye” (My Jesus is alive).
She gets the blame for almost everything but she’s still WINNING✌
I will tell her that she’s a strong woman. I’ve seen that to be completely true. I’ve heard the stories she told of the years before she had children. Strength.
In 2007, we were living in Ifako. We woke up one morning in January and saw a notice on the gate. The house had been sold and we had three months to move out.
That same year in March, Dad died. Quit notice was still pending but the time was extended. One afternoon in August, Mumsy was out of the house and one of our neighbors told her that he met some touts on the road; they all knew each other. The guys told our neighbour that the person who bought the house had told them to break it down the next day whether we were in it or not.
My mum called every extended family member she could reach and started packing. Someone went to get trucks. She and my dad had been building a house before he died. It was roofed but still had a lot of work to be done on the inside. We moved in and the area got flooded two days later. My brother got typhoid from the flood the same year. He was learning to swim in it and he almost died.
All of that. Plus she was the only breadwinner. All her children still in school. Had to keep everybody together. Plus keep her business running.
Still wonder how she never had a full breakdown. It was too much for even me at a time and I wasn’t even in the centre of it.
I’ll praise her for being a mother and a father after we lost dad.
Lost dad 7 years ago. Mum retired from the teaching service in 2014 with 3 children in the tertiary institution. 2 state universities and one polytechnic. I thought it won’t be possible but we’re all graduates now.
I’ll also correct her for sometimes venting her anger on us. I’ll correct her for not knowing what to say to us.
Despite all, she’s the best thing that happened to my siblings and I. My mom deserves all the best things in the world.
I think I will want to let her know many secrets that she thought I don’t know then, I actually know them because she thought she’s protecting us from the worries of those thoughts or I am too young to comprehend them.
I will praise her for being strong especially in a place like my father’s house.
I remember when I was still young. My mom has had my younger brother then but he was still small. So my dad’s siblings came (the women alone) that they wanted to send my mom out of the house, and then my dad isn’t one person that has plenty strength for things like that. He too had given in and they were already saying my mom should go with my younger brother because he was still small. They asked me and my elder brother to stay with my dad. Until my paternal grandpa and uncle(late now) came to intervene and then some other close family friends.
It wasn’t funny at all. She was stubborn and insisted on staying because she’s been with my dad when he had nothing. From the one room they stayed in Ilupeju to our own apartment. That incident happened over 15 years ago.
I remember years ago when I was in the university. My mum was having some challenges at home with my dad. It was so tough that my mum needed someone to talk to. Meanwhile, we, the children were tired of hearing about our parent’s every day misunderstanding, which was always caused by my dad.
Then, my mum would call me and tell me everything that was happening and I would console her in turn, telling her how it was soon going to be alright. But it was just for a matter of time because I really got tired of having her call me, moreover, my final exams was very near, so, I had to tell her to stop calling me.
While my mum is a quiet person, it aches my heart to see that she rarely tells us about her challenges anymore and she carries the pain alone. If there’s one thing I’d like to tell my mum, I’ll tell her to share her pains and burdens with me. I feel that its too much for her alone to bear.
I’ll also tell her that:
Iya Adura, it’s okay to be vulnerable; you don’t have to be strong at all times. It’s okay to show your pains; you don’t have to be fine always. It’s okay to fail; you don’t have to get it right all the time. It’s okay to be selfish with your time and money; you don’t have to always break your back for others. It’s okay to be beautiful ALWAYS! You have good genes.