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Lape Soetan: How To Change Your Negative Beliefs About Love

   

In an earlier video of mine, I talked about the number one reason why you can’t find true love.  That video is really important to understanding what I’m going to be talking about in this video so if you haven’t watched that video yet, please go and watch it now.  You can watch that video by clicking here.

In today’s video, I’m going to be talking about HOW to change your negative beliefs about love.  The truth is that before you can find true love, before you can attract it into your life, you need to change your negative beliefs about love into positive ones.  If that is something that interests you, something you want to know more about, sit tight and watch the rest of this video.

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Let’s get into the video proper.  Before you can turn your negative beliefs around, before you can change your negative beliefs about love into positive ones, you need to do 2 things.  The 1st thing is to accept that you DO have negative beliefs about love.  The 2nd thing to do is to decide that you want to change your negative beliefs about love into positive ones.  Remember, the only way you can attract true love into your life is to have positive thoughts, positive beliefs about love.

Now, we’re getting into the nitty-gritty of this video – how to turn your negative beliefs about love into positive ones.  The very first thing you need to do is to repeat to yourself day-in and day-out, “I believe in love.  I believe in love.  I believe in love.”  Say it to yourself every single day.  Do it throughout the day and do it for a long period, maybe one month or two months.  The whole point of doing this is that your mind begins to accept it as the truth because it is the truth.  It’s something that you do believe now.  If you repeat this to yourself every day for about a month or two, you’re going to coax your mind into accepting it as the truth.  Just keep saying to yourself, “I believe in love.  I believe in love.  I believe in love.”

The next thing you have to do is to take a sheet of paper and a pen and write down all your negative beliefs about love.  Examples of negative beliefs about love include, ‘There’s no such thing as love between a man and a woman’, ‘All men are useless’, ‘I don’t believe in love’, ‘Love doesn’t exist’.  Things like that.  You might have negative beliefs about love that I haven’t mentioned here.  Whatever they are, write them all down.

Now, take each negative belief that you have written and ask yourself certain questions.  The first question that you should ask yourself is, ‘Do I have any evidence that supports this belief?’  Depending on the belief, you can also ask yourself questions such as ‘Does this exist anywhere in the world?’  You can also ask yourself the question, ‘Is this true in every single situation?’

Those are the kinds of questions you should ask yourself with every single belief that you have written down.  Let’s take an example.  If the negative belief that you’re starting with is ‘There’s no such thing as love between a man and a woman’, ask yourself, “What evidence do I have that supports this belief?”  Is it because you have never seen love between a man and a woman before? There are many things that you haven’t seen but you believe in.

For example, you’ve never seen God before but you probably believe in him.  You’ve never seen snow, you might never have seen snow before but you believe that it exists so the fact that you’ve never seen something doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist and that applies to love as well.  Following this argument, it means that love could exist in the world and if it could exist in the world between a man and a woman, it could exist for you too between you and a great man.  Do you see how this works?

Let’s take a second example.  Let’s say the example of a negative belief we’re going to use now is, ‘All men are useless’.  Ask yourself, “Is this true in every single situation?”  Is it true that every single man you know is useless?  Every single one?   If you realise that NOT every single man is useless that means that some men are good, some men are useful and if that is true, it means that YOU can be in a relationship with a good man because he is a useful guy.  He is a good guy.  He is one of the good ones.  If you believe that not every single man is useless, that means some are good and that man could be there for you.

To change your negative beliefs about love, you really have to interrogate them.  You have to question them and you have to do the work because all of this is necessary to turn your negative beliefs about love into positive ones.  Because before you can find love, before you can attract the right man into your life, you have to believe that true love exists.

If you want more love and relationship tips from me, follow me on Instagram because every day, I post a tip about love and relationships over there.  If you want to get my free e-books, you can get them by clicking here.   If you enjoyed this post, please share it with your friends and also subscribe to my YouTube channel by clicking here.  I wish you love and strength.  Bye!

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Lape Soetan is a UK-certified relationship coach.  She helps single women over 30 attract and keep the right relationship while building lives they love.  Ms Soetan is the author of several books and details of her work can be found on www.lapesoetan.com

Want to attract the right relationship? Find out how with her free e-books.  Get them here: www.bitly.com/lapeslovetips
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