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10 Nigerian Women Share Their Heartbreaking Fibroid Stories

   

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In a bid to create awareness on fibroid and the effect it has on the socio-economic lives of women, a photographer, Mayor Otu started a project, which involves affected women sharing their fibroid story.

Mayor Otu was able to carry out this project with the help of the Benjamin Olowojebutu Foundation, an NGO carrying out free fibroid surgery for women who cannot afford it.

Below are the stories of 10 women, who shared their painful fibroid story.

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“It hasn’t been an easy journey for me because I thought I was pregnant with child. Having to deal with the loss of 3 children to different medical conditions wasn’t easy for me as a mother but the sight of the protruding stomach brought back a little bit of hope. For almost 2 years nothing happened and I had to go to the hospital to check up and run scan. It was during these scan that i was told that I wasn’t pregnant but it was Fibroid. They spoke to me about the symptoms and I realized that I’ve had this thing for more than 7 years without knowing what it was. My devastation was indeed unbearable because by this time my husband had left me insinuating that what I was carrying in my tommy was the reason for his misfortunes in life. I was left with no one to turn to, no money to fund the surgery and I soon became an object of scorn. Due to pain and discomfort it caused me, I couldn’t even continue with my small business and my health had since deteriorated. I used to be very fat but I guess this thing has taken away everything from me. I’ve been called many names and accused of things I’ve not done but I always believed that help will come someday. I learnt about the @benjaminolowojebutufdn and the free surgery, I came with the hope that my help has finally come. I was booked for surgery and I couldn’t believe it was free not until the surgery was done and it was successful. There are a lot of women going through the pains of Fibroid and I want them to know that there’s a way for everyone. I wept when I woke up to see the Fibroid that was removed from my belly, this is the best thing that has ever happened to me” Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotography #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #communityhealth #who #akwaibom

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“We’ve been married for about 4 years and it has been an eventful journey for us. After the first year and we couldn’t get pregnant, we decided to seek medical help. The Doctor asked us to go for a scan and bring the result to the hospital for further advice. It was a thing of shock when I realized I had Fibroid and with all the information (misinformation) I heard about it, it felt like the world has come to an end. There were pressure from everywhere, family, friends etc but we decided not to tell them about our struggles due to the stigmatization of women who have Fibroid. My husband and I have been seeking for a better way to deal with the issue and I must say, he has made these difficult times a bit easy with the love and concern he has shown me, not every woman is lucky to have a man like this. My husband heard about the @benjaminolowojebutufdn foundation through a friend of his and he told me that this is the moment we’ve been waiting for. For more than 15 hours we sat in the bus from Kaduna to Uyo and he’s always by my side , if this isn’t love then tell me what is? For all the love he’s shown me, I can’t wait to tell our daughters what true love is and our sons how real men treat their women. I guess Fibroid has made me realize that not all men are scum” Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #communityhealth #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotography #documentaryphotographer #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #truelove #akwaibom

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“ Life hasn’t been too good in the last couple of years especially since I was told about my condition (Fibroid). The idea that I have Fibroid scared the living hell out of me and I couldn’t carry out my normal activities. The first time I asked about the cost of Fibroid surgery and they told me it will cost more than Two Hundred and fifty thousand naira ($688) I knew that I will have to live with it for the rest of my life…how will I ever afford that kind of money? As the day goes by, the situation got worse, the intense bleeding, it was very uncomfortable for me and those around me. My sister in-law told me about the free surgery by @benjaminolowojebutufdn and how they have changed the stories of a lot of women and she practically brought me from Calabar to Uyo. I’ve heard a lot of bad news about those that went for Fibroid surgery and that fear would not let me look at the brighter side of freedom. Today I shed tears for so many reasons but the one that breaks my heart the most is that a lot of poor women are suffering without help in sight but look at me getting it for free, I ask God why me? “ Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotographer #documentaryphotography #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #fibroid #unwomen #akwaibom

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“ I would never believe that a young person like me will have Fibroid because what I used to hear was that it was for older women. To be diagnosed with Fibroid and I’m still in the University was really heartbreaking for me and I could only find refuge from my Church. My pastor’s wife has been a great support system during this hard times. Even with my level of education, the fear of surgery would not even make me consider it even if I had the money. My pastor’s wife has been praying with me and my belief was that God will send help my way. She then heard about the free surgery and told me we had prayed enough and it’s time to allow God use the people He has given knowledge to bring me the much needed relief and joy. I couldn’t tell my parents about the surgery because I know they would have discouraged me. I want to thank God for using my Mama in the Lord not just as a spiritual refuge but also as a counselor that advised and stood by me through out the surgery process. Sometimes not everything is spiritual, try and seek medical help on issues that you don’t really understand especially when it has to do with your health. Even the Bible says, my people perish because of lack of knowledge “. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotographer #documentaryphotography #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #fibroid #ruralcommunities #akwaibom

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“I’ve had Fibroid for about twenty years now and when I look back knowing that I’ve lived half of my years on earth with the pains and agony that comes with it, I really ask God why me? I’ve lost a lot in this life because of Fibroid; no husband, no children sigh… It was because of the heavy menstrual flow and back ache that made me go to the hospital for check up. The scan said it was Fibroid and since that time, there’s no native concoction that I haven’t drank believing that it will go away. I’ve spent money on herbs, olive oils from prophets and even had to do fasting just because I wanted it to all go away . I just wanted to live a normal life like other women I see…but as the years went by, my hope diminished with it. I learnt that I could undergo surgery and the Doctor will take it away but my problem was the money. For a woman selling water leaf in the market, how long will it take for me to save up money so that I could afford the surgery that they said will cost about Two Hundred and eighty thousand naira (N280,000). Even if I’m to do contribution and get the money at the end of the year, I won’t still be able to afford it even in 5 years. Then God sent help my way through @benjaminolowojebutufdn and words alone can’t express how I feel…oh when the Lord shall take away my captivity! I know that the God of the lowly woman like me will bless this foundation and I hope sincerely that other poor women can get this help because living with Fibroid in our community is worse than death”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #documentaryphotography #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotographer #mayorotu #africanwomen #everydaypeople #everydayafrica #womenwithfibroid #akwaibom

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“A lot of women are going through so many things in the hands of family members because of Fibroid. After I had my first child, and couldn’t get pregnant again for a long time , I decided to seek help. You know as a religious person, the first thing I did was to go to church and seek spiritual help considering the fact that everything that happens has a spiritual undertone. When I felt that it wasn’t really working out as planned, I had to go to the hospital for checks. This is how I found out that I had Fibroid and that was the reason it was difficult to conceive. It hasn’t been easy for me as a woman, going about with a protruding stomach but without a baby, this has to be the worst feeling in the world. People will talk , even the people close to you will say things about you that aren’t true. Not too long ago, I found out that my younger sister’s stomach was growing and she’s not even married. I asked her whether she was pregnant and she said she doesn’t know. She went to the hospital to find out that she too has Fibroid. It feels like a curse , how can two sisters suffer from the same thing at the same time! People even said it’s a family thing, that who knows what we did for this kind of thing to befall us. But everything changed when we heard about @benjaminolowojebutufdn and the free surgery. Though people will ask where the children are but the good part is that we will get our lives back”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #documentaryphotography #documentaryphotographer #communityhealth #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #sisterswithfibroid #everydayafrica #ruralcommunities #akwaibom

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“It’s been one of the most challenging things I’ve been through growing up. I’m just 23 years old and I’ve Fibroid already? I used to think it was a thing for the matured or older women. I’ve learnt about ways to get rid of it but the fear to go under the knife was so much that I decided I’d rather live with it than get on that table. I’ve heard a lot of gist about how people don’t come back alive and that had really discouraged me. My sister who is a medical Doctor had to put me through the advantages of getting the Fibroid surgery done and she assured me nothing bad would happen. A lot of women would love to get rid of this Fibroid but the people closer to them aren’t helping them by supporting them through it with the proper counseling. If you’re young but you start noticing unusual changes in your body, please go for proper medical checks. Don’t allow ignorance and fear keep you away from getting help”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotography #documentaryphotographer #mayorotu #everydayafrica #fibroidstory #womenwithfibroid #Ruralwomen #Akwaibom

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“I can’t tell you the shame and reproach I go through just because I’ve Fibroid. Our society is one that looks down any woman that has that medical condition. It’s like you’re the worst sinner and this is like a payment for all the bad things you’ve done. Why do women have to go through this kind of trauma all alone and most times no one is trying to offer a shoulder. I’ve had many instances that I will have to cry my heart out. I remember one time I decided that I was going for surgery but on reaching the hospital, the price they told me…for someone working with the Local government service, I can’t afford it (Three Hundred thousand naira) How will I save this kind of money for the surgery alone, won’t I pay house rent, food, family and other expenses? It was overwhelming to say the least. Then I heard about the @benjaminolowojebutufdn from a friend of mine, she has been there for me through it all. She suggested I come for the surgery since it was free. I came and the surgery was successful and I can’t hide my joy! These happy tears are for those sleepless nights, those sad days and those hopeless years, thank you for giving me the best Christmas gift ever! For me Christmas came early”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #documentaryphotography #documentaryphotographer #medicaldocumentary #mayorotu #womenwithfibroid #everydayafrica #akwaibom #ruralwomen #fibroidsawareness #unwomen

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“I used to be healthier than I look now but since I was told that I had Fibroid, my body got thinner and the stomach bigger. In our community, there are many explanations for this kind of looks ranging from witchcraft to “mbiam”…everything but Fibroid. A lot of people have come to me with different local medications telling it will suck all that is making my stomach to swell and everything will get back to normal. I’ve done these for so many years without any improvement, the stomach will just swell as if I’m about to deliver, then it reduce in size all by itself. In all of these, my health wasn’t getting better, in fact I learnt when I came to the hospital that my blood count has dropped significantly. They had to help me boost the blood count so as to prepare me for the free surgery by @benjaminolowojebutufdn. When I woke up after the surgery, I felt a lot lighter and they showed me what was taking away my health, 48 masses! They removed 48 masses from me and they did it for free…my joy is endless! Now I can go on with a normal and healthy life, I will forever be grateful. This smile will never go away again, amen”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State, Nigeria. 2018. #medicaldocumentary #documentaryphotography #documentaryphotographer #fibroidsurgery #mayorotu #everydayafrica #unwomen #womenwithfibroid #akwaibomwomen #fibroidtreatment

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“It has been a very difficult journey for me and talking about it right now will bring back the tears. I had this relationship, for about 7 years we were together. He said he was going to marry me but I didn’t know the reason why he took him so long to ask me to marry him. Thereafter, I started seeing changes in my body and I told him about it, he didn’t say anything. I had to go to the hospital and they said I should go for scan. I asked him for money for the scan , he refused to give it to me. I had to save money from my small business; I sell buns and groundnuts. When I could gather the money, I went back for the scan only to find out that I had Fibroid. I was so sad about it and when I got home and showed him the result of the scan, he took it from me tore it into pieces walked away and I’ve not set my eyes again on him…this is two years and counting since he walked away. It was at this point it occurred to me that his reason for not marrying me may have been the fear that we can’t have kids together. That really broke me, how can someone I’ve been with for 7 years just walk away…he broke my heart. I was then left alone to face the world, the pains of heartache and the agony of Fibroid. I didn’t have money to go for the surgery, I couldn’t get support from anyone, it was just me against the world. Fibroid might be painful but when someone you love leaves you because of it, it makes you feel worthless. Why is life fair to some people and really cruel to others?”. Uyo, Akwa Ibom State. Nigeria. 2018. #documentaryphotographer #documentaryphotography #fibroidsawareness #medicaldocumentary #assignment #mayorotu #unwomen #womenwithfibroid #akwaibom

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2 Comments

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  1. Hadiza Inki Eko

    Hadiza Inki Eko

    December 10, 2018 at 8:31 am

    Not a palatable experience to tell you the truth.

    I feel the issue need serious attention. Research should be carried out on this issue, instead of women going thru the physical and mental stress of been cut open all the time.

  2. Anita Ubah Dimaku

    Anita Ubah Dimaku

    December 10, 2018 at 10:20 am

    It is indeed the worst feeling for any woman. the side talks,etc… I also heard it’s sometimes spiritual. I pray God in his mercy will see all women having this issues through!

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