Subomi Plumptre who doesn’t enjoy cooking used to feel guilty about it until a friend helped her understand that she didn’t have to. She shared this in a tweet yesterday.
As expected, her tweet stirred up conversations on social media, while many people understand what she means and can relate to it, a some men descended on her tweets questioning why a woman is saying she doesn’t enjoy cooking.
Now let’s talk about, why is there an expectation that women MUST enjoy cooking? Many women cook everyday but don’t enjoy the act of cooking, does that mean they are not woman enough? We do it, but must we enjoy it?
Many women are like me – cooking is a trial & tribulation. We don’t enjoy it. But “culture” guilts us into doing it. I was set free by a friend. She told me she stopped cooking the day it dawned on her that she had no point to prove. She could cook. She simply chooses not to.
That day, I learnt a very important lesson – no one needs to know your business really. You don’t need to take permission to live your life or announce your independence to the world. Just live.
Too many people are trying to be activists when it is not their calling. They are trying hard to be role models when they lack the intestinal fortitude for sacrifice, vilification and sorrow. They have not counted the cost.
Some people are better off keeping their heads down and simply enjoying life on their own terms.
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