Other people’s marriages are #goals until they tell you the kind of challenges they had to overcome to build the enviable marriage they have.
Married to a man in the same industry, where people do not expect much from such marriages, Joke Silva’s has stood the test of time. The couple recently celebrated their 33rd wedding anniversary and Joke reveals that it has not been rosy.
In a chat with Premium Times, she said that she intentionally worked at making her marriage work.
Have there been any time she wanted to end her marriage?
It happened a lot. I recall a particular incident that happened when we just had our first a baby. It turned out to be a learning curve for me. Olu had just come back from set apparently what happened was that he was still in that character that he had just played on set. So we were just talking and he just started shouting and I was like, “Is it me you are talking to? Do you think I don’t have a father?”
So I packed my clothes with the drawer and I dumped it in my car, carried my baby and I remember our landlady lived at the back of our compound. So, she came out and started shouting, “Joke, where are you going to?’’ I told her I was going to my father’s house. When I got home the first person I see is my mum and she said what are you doing here?
I began ranting and she said you don’t have a house or a room here; you better pack your bags and go home. My father sort of understood where I was coming from. Funnily, my husband called and asked, “When are you coming home?” That was the first time and I did it a couple of other times.
I think that if you are in a situation that you cannot tolerate bearing in mind that we all of us have different thresholds of pain be it emotional or otherwise. Please if you have reached your threshold, life is not hard, please carry your load and go. Because if you leave they will talk and if you stay they will still talk. There are some people who needed to leave because they wanted to maintain their sanity, if they didn’t leave they will go mad. There is life after a divorce.
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