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Pelumi Alake’s Guide To Overcoming Body Negativity

   

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Finding a plus-size model on the internet is becoming more popular these days and while we really love it, we are aware that some of these bold and beautiful women had to fight and overcome low self-esteem and body shaming to be who they are.

Now embracing their beauty, many of these plus-size women are using their platform to preach self-love while encouraging women like them to step out of their comfort zones.

For Alake Olanike Pelumi, a plus-size model and fashion designer, overcoming body-shaming was tough because the society made her feel  she has to be a particular size to be beautiful.  Now in love with her body and flaunting what she’s got, the best part of her job is being noticed for her fashion sense and carriage.

Pelumi also created Curvy Pink, a platform where she inspires and motivates plus size women to love their body and maximize their talents.

On her Instagram page, she shared her definition of what body negativity means.

She wrote,

BODY NEGATIVITY
My definition of body negative is how people see their self in a negative way, when you don’t like anything about your body, unrealistic way of how you see your body. Body negativity can be from the result of body shaming, feedback about your body from peers,family members and friends e.t.c

Sign and symptoms of body negativity * obsessive self criticize or study in mirror *frequent comparison of your own body to our people’s body size and shape *envy : the body of a celebrity or some one else in the media.

I usually tell people that media is one the causes of body negativity, when the media portray the kind of beauty and the society feel you have to look a certain way or standard size, Women and young girls are now living in a society where their bodies define who they are. Girls are terrified to gain weight and are continually reminded by the media about various new diet products on the market, and the value in weight loss.

They are also bombarded by countless television shows on plastic surgery and the number of cosmetic surgeries in this country are increasing every year. Women today face impossible images of beauty on a daily basis when they watch television, see a movie, or view a magazine. It is estimated that young girls are exposed to 400 to 600 media images per day.

Solution to body negativity/ways to overcome body negativity
1. Fighting fatism
Learn to accept people of all sizes and shapes, this will help you appreciate your own body. Who are the people you admire, who are your mentors, do they preach body confidence create a list of people you admire that do not have “perfect” bodies. Does their appearance affect how you feel about them? Do you know in 1940’s the women that are consider beautiful women like Marilyn Monroe(size14) and Mae West were full bodied and truly plus-size women but today those beautiful women will be considered over weight, fat. Learn to fight fatism( the discrimination of fat people)
2. accept heredity
Always remember that many part of your body can not be changed, 20 percent of your body can be determine by your genes. While they are some aspect of your body you cannot Change. Learn to accept change and change start with you it is inside of you and it start with self respect, self love and body confidence. So it important to focus on your health more than your size and it is important not to compare your body with your friends, celebrities, family member or media images.
3. Think of your body as a tool. Create an inventory of all the things you can do with it, You know I usually say this all the time, learning to express your self with what you are good at,what you are best at doing it might be fashion, beauty, motivation talks, just express your self with whatever you are best at. I knew I loved fashion and I wanted to be a voice to plus-size women I combine it and created @curvypink.

5. Replace the time you spend criticizing your appearance with more positive, satisfying pursuits.

6. Be your body’s ally and advocate, not its enemy.

7. Have this positive mind that your body is perfect just the way it is.
Don’t let your size keep you from doing things you enjoy( fat is not a disease)

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3 Comments

3 Comments

  1. mboangyu@yahoo.com'

    Comfort Osondu

    January 10, 2019 at 9:18 am

    Thanks for this. From the time when I was a teenager I’ve endured comments about my body and the funny thing is when I look back I wonder what was so bad about my body. I’m big boned and being fleshy comes with the territory.

    Now in my 40’s I’m learning to love my body, though I’m still living among those who have a fixed definition of perfection and ideal body size and weight. Heck there was a time in history in Greece and other nations where if you were not voluptuous like me, you were considered unattractive. Sometimes it’s an uphill task ignoring them but I’m evolving and loving the process.

  2. Ogwuegbu Cecilia Chidimma

    Ogwuegbu Cecilia Chidimma

    January 10, 2019 at 5:05 pm

    Lol.. Such is life

  3. Ajoke Kupoluyi

    Ajoke Kupoluyi

    January 10, 2019 at 8:06 pm

    Life!!

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