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This Is Why This 25 Year-Old Woman Wants To Spit In Her Mother’s Face And Tell Her “If I’m Really A Slut, It Is Only Because Of You”

   

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Many mothers have the best intentions for their daughters but sometimes, they do more harm than good in the process of making sure that their daughters turn out well.

A twitter user, Morolake shared how her mother’s accusations of her being sexually involved at 16 damaged her. To ensure she was telling the truth, her mother invited a matron who ‘tested’ her, and that experience remains unforgettable for Morolake.

Sadly, many young women could relate to her experience as they shared their own story, noting that their mothers did the same to them.

Read Morolake’s story here

When I was 16 my mom accused me of having sex. I kept insisting I hadn’t so she got a matron to come and do a test.

My friends and I had imagined all sorts. How do you test for virginity?

One of the girls said her grandmother once tried putting a whole egg into her vagina. If it drops inside it means you have lost the virginity.

The thing is even with my legs wide open I couldn’t understand how an egg would enter inside. I had only managed my fingers.

The matron came and asked me to lay flat on the bed. She put on gloves, inserted two finger inside me, removed them and told me to get up.

What did that mean? She took me back to my mother and started shaking her head. My mother asked me to start confessing because they had confirmed it. I started shedding tears like a tap.

I had never had sex. What sort of accusation was this? I “confessed” though. A whole letter of lies because no one was believing my truth and I needed the nightmare to pass.

My mom “forgave” me. A year later before I went to uni. I texted one of my random male friends “Hi, can you come and have sex with me”. He was excited. I already had the mentality that that was all men wanted.

It was weird and dry and painful and he just kept trying. I was irritated , I had picked the wrong boy I thought he’d know better since he was in uni and had babes. He couldn’t believe I was a virgin. Why did I choose him? I told him to leave my house. It wasn’t that big a deal.

Just like that. I had lost it. I’ve grown into a very sexual person but I still wonder if it was worth it. Couldn’t I have waited? Kept it.

My mother accuses me of being a dirty slut and sleeping with people’s dads. I never have but then there’s no point explaining. I’m 25 now and I really want to spit in her face and tell her that if I’m really a slut, it is only because of her.

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8 Comments

8 Comments

  1. Nneamaka Arokwu

    Nneamaka Arokwu

    January 31, 2019 at 8:15 pm

    Hmmm, experiences every where

  2. Olabisi Dairo

    Olabisi Dairo

    January 31, 2019 at 8:41 pm

    May God help us the new generation mothers to get it right . My case was worse than hers. But i have resolved to make my daughters my friends and trust them. Talk about sex with them at certain age. Educate them, pray with them.

  3. Cherry Betty

    Cherry Betty

    January 31, 2019 at 11:06 pm

    No mother has the right to do that. A mother can only guide and advice her daughter on the importance of keeping her virginity

  4. Gift Onaghise James

    Gift Onaghise James

    January 31, 2019 at 11:26 pm

    U see…. Goddddd

  5. Ayo Lawanson

    Ayo Lawanson

    February 1, 2019 at 12:08 am

    Uhmmm… I passed through this experience too..And it really affected me,up till now

  6. Ime Unwana

    Ime Unwana

    February 1, 2019 at 6:29 am

    For what ever reason she had, she shouldn’t have done that to her daughter. Its sad and demeaning.
    May God help the lady

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