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The advice of a pastor to a woman whose husband defiled their three children is going viral as people find it to be both disturbing and disgusting.

The video shows that the programme aired on Dove TV, the official channel of The Redeemed Christian Church of God,  the host ask the counselor, Pastor David, what should be the next course of action for a mother whose husband raped their children aged 5, 6, and 12.

“What I advise is that that woman should go to her pastor. Somebody who can help her to call the attention of the man to what he has done and they will prayerfully deliver the man”, pastor David said.

Shockingly, a woman also called in to say, “what has happened has happened. If she leaves the house, the secret will leak”, advising the aggrieved woman to stay and fight for her marriage.

Sadly, when the host of the show suggested to the pastor that the woman needs to be separated from her husband for a little while to “psychologically reform herself”, the pastor said that the man could commit suicide if she does so.

“It depends on the maturity of the woman. What of if she moves somewhere with the children and the man commits suicide?”, explaining that the man may be scared that the public has heard.

It is so sad that in this age and time, a religious counselor would be giving such advise without considering the state of the woman and her three children. Not once did pastor David mention that the police should be involved or that the woman should take her children to the hospital for a checkup or that they should see a therapists.

Everything pastor David said was to protect her husband from shame.

"What If she moves and he commits Suicide" pic.twitter.com/APGQMDbj3B

— Lolo Cynthia (@Lolo_cy) January 25, 2019

Reactions from the public

As expected, people find this advice to be appalling.

“If you have a problem that you cannot handle, call your pastor.”

Who is the pastor again?
What qualifications does the pastor have to handle the problem?
Does being a pastor make him all-knowing?

Throw the TV station, the caller, the presenter and the bow-tied man away.

— Catharsis (@iam_catharsis) January 25, 2019

Not once did they mention police. Not once did they mention punishment for the man’s crimes.

Some people are sick.

— Mr (@onyekaonyekpe) January 25, 2019

 

The time is coming. Very soon, whatever doesn’t make sense would be rejected.

Authority will no longer be truth. The truth will become the authority cos this level of stupidity is getting out of hand.

— Mike (@mickyymyke) January 25, 2019

 

This is disturbing. Why is the guest on this show fixated on protecting a pedophile who should be in jail? If he could do that to his own kids, I wonder how many more kids he has destroyed? This is very disturbing.

— Mr. Wednesday (@folurunsh) January 25, 2019

 

I’m so disgusted by this video, What’s really wrong with Nigeria men, The woman should cover the secret, I feel sad imagining the trauma those children will go through.

— Rose Gold (@sesantuedoye) January 25, 2019

 

The perpetrator, this religious Counsellor, the presenter, the TV station, and all the callers, need to all be identified, flogged out of their ignorance, mandated with therapy and then imprisoned for a few years.

— J.O. Effoduh (@effodu) January 25, 2019

 

Like what nonsense, not once did he think about those poor babies.

” what if she leaves and he commits suicide?”

Ehen and? Is that one a person worth saving?!

— SHE (@Quigons_miss) January 25, 2019

 

And cover his shame because he doesn’t want his shame to be made public.

I’m so pained right now.

Religion and these things just cannot mix.

Forever endorsing and covering nonsense since inception.

— Catharsis (@iam_catharsis) January 25, 2019

 

Oh dear God. I will make it my life’s mission to ensure he rots in jail and suffers while in there. Anybody who tries interceding for him will meet the same fate. She needs to get a lawyer, anyone that marriage, get her children as far away from him as possible.

— /Vælˈkɪəri/ (@BlaqieChan_) January 25, 2019

 

May I shook u guys by telling u that there is a high possibility that tjose people rooting for delivering him instead of imprisonment may be involved in something similar. If not they should have been outraged by this man’s actions.

— free Deji Adeyanju StanKC (@kcworld4u) January 25, 2019

2. 'What if the man decides to take his own life if she leaves????'…what if the children decide to take their own lives due to trauma of being abused by their father and still living with him???. Or does he think children aren't capable of that????

— ScarztoBeautiful (@ScarztoBeauti) January 25, 2019

*if na true story* I wish the family could be found & those children rescued because they are living in danger. 1. He will either continue to abuse them or 2. Their mother will be so hypervigilant the children may start to blame themselves. Either way the trauma continues.

— ScarztoBeautiful (@ScarztoBeauti) January 25, 2019

 

Woman cover which secret??? God punish any person that is advising the woman to stay in that marriage, after molesting the kids What is wrong with people that man has destroyed the life of those kids,what he did will affect how they see the world,if care is not taken the cycle…

— TheCicaeda (@hafsii) January 25, 2019

 

The woman who called in on the show is that MIL that allows her son to abuse his wife, the sister that watches as her brother defiles a girl, the aunt that says “it’s nothing” when a nephew harasses a lady.

— Ayinde Fatihah (@1_Firstlaideete) January 25, 2019

 

In Nigeria, there many degrees recognized for women. Women in government and top offices prove this. Don’t you think these people do not realize that rape/pedophilia is a criminal offence? If the man was an armed robber, do you think they will find excuses for him?

— Seun Peter (@theseunpeter) January 25, 2019

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