While we don’t know who made the rule that a man must be older than his woman, women struggle to find themselves in a relationship with men that are younger.
So, we were not surprised with how Uriel Oputa felt when she decided to go on a date with a guy who is five years younger than her.
In a vlog titled, “So, I dated a younger man”, Uriel shared how she struggled to go on that date, as she kept reminding herself that her date was even younger than her younger brother, which made her feel guilty.
From the time she started preparing for the date, to dressing up and going for the date and finally meeting her date, Uriel said she was really nervous, however, she wouldn’t trade the experience.
If it was me four years ago, I would have said no and made a big deal out of the date. I wouldn’t even go for the date. I was with someone for a long period of time and he broke my heart in the worst way and he was older than me and I thought that life is all about experiences because sometimes, you look at things and you feel like you are in the right position and its sometimes doesn’t work out after doing everything according to the book and that’s just life.
Life is give and take and all about experiences. So, when that relationship didn’t work out, it opened a new door to me on not judging people unless I know them especially with guys. I had preferences. I love taller and fairer guys and they were always attracted to me. After my last experience, I decided to be more open to things and I met this guy and while going for this blind date with this younger guy, I couldn’t get it out of my head that I was older even though I was being open-minded.
Sometimes, you put conditions on yourself that you can’t date a younger guy or an older guy because it does not fit into the norm of society. I think I was hard on myself and I shouldn’t have been because at the end of the day, the end goal is happiness. And sometimes when you put conditions especially the ones created by the society, you don’t feel happy.
So, for me to go on this date, it means I turned my back on what society would think while I decided to live in the moment. The date was actually one of the best dates that I have been in a while. Life is all about trying.
Watch her speak here
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