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“What Are You Doing, Playing The Wife Role Without Being Married?” – Sola Allyson Is Asking Young Women Some Thought Provoking Questions

   

Gospel singer, Sola Allyson has some words for young women performing wifely duties for their boyfriends. On her Instagram page, the singer asked her female followers why many relationships are not working and some of the responses are that the men only want sex and then dump the lady afterwards.

In her reactions to the responses, Sola is urging young women to focus more on developing themselves rather than allowing themselves to be used by men who are only interested in their bodies.

Read her note here

Girl, you said guys are liars, and when they get what they’re looking for, they run.

Ok. Well, not all guys. I know many good and serious ones.

First and foremost, what do you have apart from your body? You that you’re a virgin, it’s very good. Who are you? Where is your substance? Where is the nobility in your character? Where is the “omoluwabi-ness” in you? Where is the sense? Wisdom? Have you found yourself? What are your needs? Are you fixing yourself? Or is it just about your shape and your slaying?😏

You see, men have needs too. Emotional, psychological, various needs, it’s a two way thing, everyone has needs. There is a baby somewhere inside him looking up to you too. All that macho covering is a mask. He hides it because the society gave him a false interpretation of manhood. You must be able to meet his needs too. Can you be trusted to absorb his feelings of being inadequate SOMETIMES? Will you be able to walk and work with him? Are you growing your inner strength?

Then, about this sex thing. We shouldn’t even be discussing this! Keep your body! Sex is not priority in a relationship! Knowing each other and building friendship is! It’s like eating hot yam, it’ll scald your tongue! And the pain runs deep… Why are you committing too much of your soul and body into the hands of a boy who only has the nomenclature of man? What are you doing, playing the wife role without being married? Why are you allowing him have undeserving access to your soul, and body?

Sex is not priority! SEX IS NOT LOVE! Sex is not commitment! A guy can enjoy sex with anybody! A guy who doesn’t have self control about his mind is not yet a man! It’s from the mind that sex starts, then the blood rushes “down-below”😎. If he can’t control sexual stimuli, how can he have control over life’s important issues! Can you see that he easily moves onto another girl?

Why are you sharing your body with a guy that only wants to satisfy his curiosity and how he can experiment with a Woman’s body?

What value do you place on yourself? It’s sad girl, that you don’t know yourself and what you’re made of! You’re supposed to “smell” a man not for you from afar! But have you not quietened your “sensing” ability because you want to be sophisticated and “woke”? Well, consider it. Where is your dignity?

Zip up joo! Work on getting better. Sharpen your spiritual antenna. Add skill to skill. Gain more knowledge. You’re more than a toy for boys, please! REFUSE to be used as experiment by boys who want to test how to have sex!
Many things to discuss, but these are the points most of you raised.
You know I love you, even with these my words. You’re my kind. I love you, toughly🥰😎.

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Girl, you said guys are liars, and when they get what they're looking for, they run. Ok. Well, not all guys. I know many good and serious ones. First and foremost, what do you have apart from your body? You that you're a virgin, it's very good. Who are you? Where is your substance? Where is the nobility in your character? Where is the "omoluwabi-ness" in you? Where is the sense? Wisdom? Have you found yourself? What are your needs? Are you fixing yourself? Or is it just about your shape and your slaying?😏 You see, men have needs too. Emotional, psychological, various needs, it's a two way thing, everyone has needs. There is a baby somewhere inside him looking up to you too. All that macho covering is a mask. He hides it because the society gave him a false interpretation of manhood. You must be able to meet his needs too. Can you be trusted to absorb his feelings of being inadequate SOMETIMES? Will you be able to walk and work with him? Are you growing your inner strength? Then, about this sex thing. We shouldn't even be discussing this! Keep your body! Sex is not priority in a relationship! Knowing each other and building friendship is! It's like eating hot yam, it'll scald your tongue! And the pain runs deep… Why are you committing too much of your soul and body into the hands of a boy who only has the nomenclature of man? What are you doing, playing the wife role without being married? Why are you allowing him have undeserving access to your soul, and body? Sex is not priority! SEX IS NOT LOVE! Sex is not commitment! A guy can enjoy sex with anybody! A guy who doesn't have self control about his mind is not yet a man! It's from the mind that sex starts, then the blood rushes "down-below"😎. If he can't control sexual stimuli, how can he have control over life's important issues! Can you see that he easily moves onto another girl? Why are you sharing your body with a guy that only wants to satisfy his curiosity and how he can experiment with a Woman's body? Continued in comments👇👇👇

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17 Comments

17 Comments

  1. Flourish Tarkaa Shidoo

    Flourish Tarkaa Shidoo

    March 12, 2019 at 7:18 pm

    Reflections

  2. Hadiza Inki Hassan

    Hadiza Inki Hassan

    March 12, 2019 at 7:48 pm

    Deep

  3. Henry Tune

    Henry Tune

    March 12, 2019 at 7:49 pm

    People have the right to fuck who they wanna fuck, e dey favor both parties

  4. Odejayi Opeyemi

    Odejayi Opeyemi

    March 12, 2019 at 7:51 pm

    So deep… Sex all the way, if he doesn’t love you or serious about u he won’t keep u…

    • Ngozi Uzoma

      Ngozi Uzoma

      March 12, 2019 at 7:54 pm

      And u think sex keeps a man to u?

    • Charlex Mwangangi Dorcus

      Charlex Mwangangi Dorcus

      March 12, 2019 at 8:09 pm

      Sex doesn’t keep a man,you can do all the styles for him n he will walk away if he’s not for keep.A man who wants to be kept will stay

    • Odejayi Opeyemi

      Odejayi Opeyemi

      March 12, 2019 at 8:09 pm

      Ngozi Uzoma
      Plz Read again ..
      I didn’t mean sex all the way directly, I mean u can sex all d way ND he can still dump u.

  5. Nkechi Anaba

    Nkechi Anaba

    March 12, 2019 at 9:37 pm

    Word

  6. Tina Classic Odinakachukwu Wilfred

    Tina Classic Odinakachukwu Wilfred

    March 12, 2019 at 11:29 pm

    Just sex
    Nothing but sex
    And the girl in question uses her money to treat std and do abortions,,, God help us all

  7. Queen Nefitti

    Queen Nefitti

    March 13, 2019 at 12:16 am

    Is it your body and soul?

  8. Zainab M. Allieu

    Zainab M. Allieu

    March 13, 2019 at 12:18 am

    It’s true, we always mess up and cried later, sometimes the fear of losing him (the man) is the problem with some of us, but let him go if sex is all he wants after all sex is the cheapest commodity this days,the right man will always wait for the right platform (marriage),and God will help us wait.

  9. Olori Ormohwumie

    Olori Ormohwumie

    March 13, 2019 at 7:01 am

    Gbe body ee🤣…and dont 4gt to carry ur soul along👈

  10. Aniegboka Nkiruka

    Aniegboka Nkiruka

    March 13, 2019 at 7:36 am

    Deep!

  11. Adaku Chibuzor

    Adaku Chibuzor

    March 13, 2019 at 9:45 am

    Women do dump me too.
    Yes… Women use and dump the most painful way. They lead men to give their body and soul. Men take drugs to satisfy them, train them in school with all they own only to be dumped a damaged individual.
    Value human beings and use things
    Don’t use human beings and value things.

  12. Omolayo Yusuf

    Omolayo Yusuf

    March 13, 2019 at 10:21 am

    Humm

  13. Onize Otu

    Onize Otu

    March 13, 2019 at 11:53 am

    What are you doing playing the wife role when you aren’t married?
    Word!!!

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