Ex-BBNaija housemate, Alex Asogwa will be speaking on the topic #StopThatBully at an event, so, she asked her followers to share their experiences of bullying and the comments that followed revealed that bullies can be our friends, families, co-workers, spouses and even our bosses.
Unfortunately, many bullies may not be aware of the damage they cause to their victims because the experiences are not one that is easily forgotten.
We extracted 15 responses and we hope that after going through these stories, you would stop being a bully or you would get the courage to stand up to that bully.
I got into sec school at 7+ from primary 3, so I was in JSS1 with people who were my senior in Primary school. They all made me feel I didn’t deserve where I was and they hated me. I didn’t know it was bullying then, but now I know. Thanks to my mum who told me, “if anyone tells you A, say ABCD
Right from kindergarten, I was always the smallest in the class, and I was bullied a lot for being small, for talking a lot, for my gap teeth (I hated it a lot and barely smiled), my forehead, for not having a particular game or toy, for having full lips, for liking someone, for not knowing something. It was really hard and I only had friends on my birthday. Every other day, I was alone. It affected my school performance and my personality. I resented them for a long time. Thank God I’m okay now (I think). I see these bullies on the streets of social media and I sometimes wonder if they realize the impact they had in my life. I still remember all their names and surnames along with the teachers that stood up for me.
I was bullied in secondary school because I had yam legs (still have dem though), boys in my class used to call me “yam rust.” I could hardly wear short dresses but it only taught me to love myself and I have gotten over it.
I was bullied by my roommate and her friends during my days in school. They mocked the hell out of me, called me all sorts of names, I became scared. I stopped walking with them and always stayed late in school just for me not to see them. But one day, I took a bold step and challenged them and that’s how it all ended.
I was bullied when I was in Secondary school because of my glasses and was named 4eyed. Some students even tried to remove my glasses from my eyes claiming I think I am better than them,I remembered crying always. One day I broke my glasses because I couldn’t bear it anymore.
Bullying is really bad and draining l was a victim of it in my primary school l was so scared of going to school every morning. Not until my mum talked me out of it. The particular student was expelled from school.
I was bullied in secondary school by Chinedu and Nonso Chukwujekwu who called me “willow” because I was petite.I just felt they hated me.It didn’t have any effect on me though because looking back and seeing them now on social media, they didn’t grow any taller.
I was bulled in secondary school because I was a very fat kid. Some will be calling me fat pig, some will be singing anytime they see me coming. I will be crying everytime I remember I will be going to class. one day I decided to pack my things from school and run to the house I was telling me mum to calculate everything that she has spend on me that when I get married I will pay her back, because I’m not going back to that school again..the experience was not a good one at all
When I was a kid, I was bullied by my senior. She always beat me up after closing from school. The fear of going to school became unbearable and I couldn’t tell my parents because I thought she’ll beat me again. But one day I gathered the courage and confronted her. I gave her the beating of her life. Please don’t let bullies get ahead of you. Defend yourself.
I have been bullied by my bosses, and there was this day that I wanted to quit my job.. but as soon as I took my phone and open my Instagram, the first post I saw was from you and it was very motivating, I got it just the time I needed it. It helped me regained myself.
When I was in primary and Secondary school, people always laughed at me whenever I spoke because they said I had a very tiny voice. It made me to stop answering questions in class to avoid being laughed at. One day, my teacher asked a question in class, nobody was able to answer it, I knew the correct answer but I couldn’t get up to answer it until my teacher noticed I was fighting something within and had to call me up to answer the question.
I told her they would laugh at me because of my voice. She told me something I will never forget, “…you are the girl with the golden voice, your voice is rare, just like the nightingale”. That day, I found my voice. Today, I am a public speaker and a trainer. Do not let anyone bully you to the point that you lose your voice. Speak up, let your voice be heard.
As an adult, a wife, a mother and everything you can put me as, I was being bullied by another older adult, in her 50s, in my church and mind you, it’s not in Nigeria. She is generally a bully but she singled me out cos of my soft nature. It’s been going on for years but this January, I made a resolution to stand up to her any time such happen again and so on March 3rd, just last month, she did it again and I screamed at the top of my voice “Stop bullying me” You can imagine, she didn’t take it lightly and she had many names to call me but at least for the very first time, I stood up to her. Bullying is not only amongst children, it’s among the adults too, women especially.
I was bullied to the point of suicide by the words that came out of the mouths of those that should have cared. I was bullied in school and at home. It made me build walls and hide in books. Today, my students know that I despise bullying and I don’t joke with it. They report these cases and I take action ASAP. Bullying isn’t always physical- the emotional is the most damaging.
My bestie told me she was called Dracula in primary-secondary because of her dention, that almost damaged her self esteem and social life! She fixed her dention in the university but she carried the hurt throughout her formative years.
Bullying even happens at your place of work not just school. Me that thought I had sharp mouth and couldn’t be bullied …. I remember mine clearly, just before I finally decided to face my ‘talent’ and turned it to a business. My bosses ‘females’ didn’t like each other so I was in the middle of a crossfire. You feel you don’t have to defend yourself because she could get you fired if you talk back. Till I landed in the hospital for nervous breakdown! Oh boy I was MAD! I went to work the next day with jeans and spaghetti top and spilled my mind like Chrisbrown’s lyrics to everyone that ever tried to bully me in the office because I was a junior… I was done! Told them to keep their job…. well I wasn’t fired after that episode, I quit the job myself. Oh that joy! I remember telling my family then ‘Now I want to sell food’.