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“I Was Never Called Pretty, I Grew Up Knowing I Wasn’t The Prettiest” – Lami Phillips

   

The culture of addressing children by how they look is a common one in Nigeria. Just because a child doesn’t fit into our idea of beautiful, we bully them, killing their morale and self-confidence.

Unfortunately, it slips into their subconscious mind and affects them till they become an adult and if they don’t make conscious effort to fight it, it becomes a baggage that they carry around.

Singer, Lami Phillips shared her experience and its something to take note of. As a parent, be mindful of how people address your children, no matter how close they are.

Read her note here

Yeah.. that’s me.. the darkest person in the picture. I grew up “knowing” that I wasn’t the prettiest. My parents friends would joke “blacky”.. or ask me in Yoruba “ki lo de to se jo okunrin bayi “ ( why do you look so much like a boy). I was told I was short and thick ( it sounds worse in Yoruba).. I was also asked why i looked like my dad.

Why wasn’t I light skinned like my mother? So many questions… all somehow directed at making me subconsciously question the way I looked. Over time.. I decided to ignore or compartmentalize those insecurities. I ignored the fact that I was somewhat unrecognizable in photographs or less favored for certain opportunities.

I was never called pretty as much as I can remember. I convinced myself that I was ordinary. Thank God for my sense of humour because I allowed it all dust off my shoulders by joking about it. So as a teenager when a boy said he liked me .. I wouldn’t believe it. Why would he like me when there are others prettier than me?

Little did I know that I was far from ordinary. Little did they know.. that I was beautiful… TO UNDERSTAND THE FRUIT WE MUST EXAMINE THE ROOT. Excuse me as I pursue PURPOSE. (Most people won’t understand the “purpose” or meaning of this post/caption.. and that’s ok too)

#skin#blackskin #blackgirl #colourism#bleachingISNEVERANOPTION#whydowelookdownonblack#blackskinmatters #beauty #stigma#blackish

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Yeah.. that’s me.. the darkest person in the picture. I grew up “knowing” that I wasn’t the prettiest. My parents friends would joke “blacky”.. or ask me in Yoruba “ki lo de to se jo okunrin bayi “ ( why do you look so much like a boy). I was told I was short and thick ( it sounds worse in Yoruba).. I was also asked why i looked like my dad. Why wasn’t I light skinned like my mother? So many questions… all somehow directed at making me subconsciously question the way I looked. Over time.. I decided to ignore or compartmentalize those insecurities. I ignored the fact that I was somewhat unrecognizable in photographs or less favored for certain opportunities. I was never called pretty as much as I can remember. I convinced myself that I was ordinary. Thank God for my sense of humour because I allowed it all dust off my shoulders by joking about it. So as a teenager when a boy said he liked me .. I wouldn’t believe it. Why would he like me when there are others prettier than me? Little did I know that I was far from ordinary. Little did they know.. that I was beautiful… TO UNDERSTAND THE FRUIT WE MUST EXAMINE THE ROOT. Excuse me as I pursue PURPOSE. (Most people won’t understand the “purpose” or meaning of this post/caption.. and that’s ok too) #skin #blackskin #blackgirl #colourism #bleachingISNEVERANOPTION #whydowelookdownonblack #blackskinmatters #beauty #stigma #blackish

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4 Comments

4 Comments

  1. Aderonke Adeoshun

    Aderonke Adeoshun

    April 12, 2019 at 6:46 pm

    It actually sounds worse in yoruba, kuru’ki. The things people say, and it’s effects on others…

  2. Elihu Maduwan

    Elihu Maduwan

    April 12, 2019 at 6:59 pm

    U are beautiful

  3. Dallah Stella Nkiru

    Dallah Stella Nkiru

    April 13, 2019 at 2:16 pm

    God is awesome, pretty lady 😍😍

  4. Shalom Ogbonnaya

    Shalom Ogbonnaya

    April 15, 2019 at 1:55 pm

    Beautiful Lady

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