“If You Want To Judge My Life Choices, Make Sure You Are Perfect First” – Toyin Lawani


In an Instagram post, Fashion entrepreneur and mother of two, Toyin Lawani shared a little about herself while explaining that people shouldn’t be judged based on their status.

Read what she wrote here

When U are Different, The world will hate on u for no Reason. When they don’t understand your life choices or theories they will castigate u & everything u stand for.

The women that go through the most in life are single moms. They are blamed for their choice of not being married or in a man’s house, they take care of their kids day in day out pushing them to greater heights without uttering any complain & still let the fathers play their role in the child’s life.

They struggle day in day out to give the people around them joy & happiness. They work hard, so when you want to blame a woman for being single or having kids with two different men, think twice cause it can happen to anybody, either by death or by pain.  Atimes, we don’t choose our situations, our situation choose us.

A long time ago, a friend sent me a msg which I still hv, mocking me that I was in an abusive relationship & showing off to me that she had a better husband than me. I took my kids & walked away from the relationship, said nothing to the public & focused on my business and kids. Little did we know that the husband beat her up everyday & she faked all her riches.

Now today my baby daddy helps with my son’s bills and act like a better dad. Why am I saying this? All that glitters are not gold. Atimes we make future decisions for our kids by not fighting a bad situation with a bad situation, cause the truth is the internet never forgets. They will grow up & read all y’all silly negative write ups on their dads.

Two wrongs don’t make a right, and hate can’t birth happiness. When people mock me that I have two kids from different dads, I laugh so hard, cause my dear it will be your bestie,your friend , your sister, your mother ,your aunty 2mrw. Just make sure that they have their second baby with the first father of their child ok

I had my first kid when I was 23years old. I got married when I was 19years old. There are many things y’all don’t know about me. I have been through hell & back with no complains or pity party, so if you want to judge my life choices make sure you are perfect first.

Join a community of women living authentically & thriving in spite of life’s pains & pressures!–> @dearyoungnaijawoman




1 Comment

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  1. Nancy Omumu

    Nancy Omumu

    April 25, 2019 at 9:56 am

    I stop caring about what people may say about me the moment i realize when you are in problem no one except you carries your burden.

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