Nigerian men seem to be aware that the Nigerian culture, especially in the area of marriage does not favour women as much as the men. It is even sad to note that women are the first suspect when they lose their husbands.
So, asides from the accusations from their husband’s family members, they also get to lose the properties they worked hard together to get with their late husbands.
Nigerian media company, Daily Trust asked a question on twitter about if married women should buy properties in their husband’s names and it sparked a conversation that revealed that the life of a widow is harder than imagined.
Should married women buy property in husband’s name or theirs?https://t.co/xUmSv5E4vZ pic.twitter.com/sb2A15plrJ
— Daily Trust (@daily_trust) April 20, 2019
According to a lot of people, it is better that a married woman buys properties in her own name. According to these people, she can be kicked out of her marriage and her property becomes her husband’s or she can also lose her husband suddenly and her property is forcefully taken away from her by her husband’s family.
Infact, a twitter user, @THATPHCBoy shared some tips on how women, who suddenly lost their husbands can secure their properties before their husband’s family comes calling for them. According to him, women need to protect themselves as the culture of the land already supports the men.
Girls don't play yourselves and I mean this. If you buying property, BUY IT IN YOUR NAME. Nigerian laws will not protect you in the event of a divorce, you can loose everything. Heck he can even die and his family will toss you and the female kids out into the streets. https://t.co/jMMVCexNB0
— ThatPortharcourtBoy (@ThatPHCBoy) April 20, 2019
If any woman loses her husband and her relatives are quick to bundle her to the village, she should refuse. Sort out valuables first and move them to a safe place. Lock the house and change the locks before going for the funeral
— ThatPortharcourtBoy (@ThatPHCBoy) April 20, 2019
Some men also shared stories, advising women to be smarter about this issue.
compensation… guess who started dying? Yup!! You guessed it right. The women and guess who was showing up to collect the money before they even found their dead bodies.. women put you first o, not your husband or your kids, but you THEN anyone else can follow
— ᴡᴏʀʟᴅsᴛᴜᴅᴇɴᴛ💭 (@teachableknower) April 20, 2019
I know of a Woman who acquired assets worth billions in her husband’s name and got kicked out of her marriage of 35yrs without anything to her name. Sad that she began to depend on others for survival. Not that I was told, I know.
— Wole (@wolexzzo) April 21, 2019
Also if your husband wants to buy joint assets ensure that your name is on it in this format; Mr and Mrs (your first name) Surname. I.e. Mr and Mrs Yetunde Chukwuma. This is because your husband can remarry and another woman can also be Mrs Chukwuma.
— Ozymandias (@CHIZY_N) April 21, 2019
My very Nigerian uncle who doesn’t trust Nigerians buys everything in his wife’s name.
— Oko @cer_lliey (@zaizhoe) April 21, 2019
This shouldn’t even be an issue. When you’re buying property it’s only wise to use your name. My name nor forbid property na. Women, protect yourselves. Don’t shoot yourselves in the foot.
— Cai (@PrincessOnome) April 21, 2019
Buy it in your name ladies, and if you decide to buy it together make sure your name is spelt out correctly, don’t go and use Mr. & Mrs. Okeke, you might not be the only Mrs. Okeke ooh.
— Ahmarkah.Chuk(Ogo) (@ahmarkah) April 21, 2019
If as a woman you have a business and you make money.. if you are buying property it is your right to buy it in your name. Ladies don’t let any man tell you otherwise.. just like I can decide not to put my wife as a director in my company..it’s nothing personal..
— Sullivan bin Ezike (@kokopelli_Iam) April 20, 2019
Also use your full name o! First, middle and surname. Especially if you went and changed your surname. It’s very easy to find and marry another Bimbo.
— Awesome. (@Awksomekid) April 21, 2019
I’m a man. And my answer is NO. If you like, ignore this advice. You’ll one day wish you never did.
— daramola Seyifunmi. (@dara_seyifunmi) April 20, 2019
Married women should buy in their name, married men should buy in their wife’s name and both man and wife should jointly buy in the wife’s name. We have seen enough to know why!!!
— Tope Ogunbi (@topeogunbi) April 20, 2019
I believe the woman should buy properties in her name preferably out of caution. Her husband should be aware of this and I think it’s also wise for husbands to buy properties in his wife’s or children’s names when possible.
— grant ojijieme (@grant_ojijieme) April 21, 2019
A good man will want you to buy it in your name and also buy some for you in your name… Isn’t that the goal?? 🤔
— God’s Son (@HayWhy_Tops) April 21, 2019
Her properties belongs to her n her kids while her husbands properties belongs to everyone,so its better its all in her name so it doesn’t end up in another person hand….
— Salisu (@SalisuKareem) April 20, 2019
What belongs to the husband, also belongs to the wife, But what belongs to the wife is hers alone.
That being said, If a woman wants to buy a property in her husband’s name, it should be her choice…not by force or compulsion.
To be safe…buy it Your name & let him know.— 🅰zubikeⓂaduka (@zubykelz) April 21, 2019
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DEAR YOUNG NAIJA WOMAN, CLICK!
Violet Achafu Okonkwo
April 23, 2019 at 9:33 am
Women! Be wise.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 9:38 am
the name on the properties should read ‘MR & MRS’……….,
Gladys Izediunor
April 23, 2019 at 9:45 am
Ugochukwu Jp no sir
Mr Segun Obalende & Mrs Toni Obalende.
Anybody can be Mr & Mrs Obalende
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 9:52 am
@gladys ,is mr&Mrs obalende with your national id the show my dear
Chinenye Emmanuella
April 23, 2019 at 9:55 am
It should be Mr &Mrs. Kenneth joy olu.
Aniekan Johnson
April 29, 2020 at 11:39 am
Nice post well written… I have learn a lot when it comes to relationship.
Gladys Izediunor
April 23, 2019 at 9:57 am
Someone lost her properties to her husband because she used Mr & Mrs , because her husband brought another woman and claimed that that new wife is Mrs. and because she had no other proof on it, not even a maiden name, she lost everything, even the court couldn’t help. .
My fellow women use your heads
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 10:06 am
@gladys you are on point ,but as we live things are new everyday ,women also should always seek advise of a lawyer
Duruvwe Erhuvwu Blessing
April 23, 2019 at 10:18 am
My sister,Mr & Mrs doesn’t count in court,write your full names including your maiden name.any body can claime the Mrs.we were told during our marriage counseling.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 10:23 am
@blessing can you give us example , now you want to buy a car tell us how the name will be written
Arewaoluwa Adejumoke A-Johnson
April 23, 2019 at 10:30 am
Ugochukwu Jp buying car is diff sir. You can decide to gift out the car tomorrow. But when it comes to properties like houses,lands, investment. You are advised to write out your name in full.MR TONY OBI AND MRS JOY OBI(UGO). Not just Mr and Mrs Obi. Anybody can be Mrs obi
Kofoworola-Akinbohun Olubunmi Gladys
April 23, 2019 at 10:35 am
Duruvwe Erhuvwu Blessing on point
Janet Uyamasi
April 23, 2019 at 10:37 am
Arewaoluwa Adejumoke A-Johnson thank you..pls tell dem
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 10:38 am
@adejumoke what you are try to say is anything you (wife)are buy for your family is joint venture not a contribution to the well being of the family
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 10:47 am
@adejumoke who told u that you cant give out house n land , the are cars that are more expensive , our pray today let love reign in our marriage n famiies there will be no fear
Gladys Izediunor
April 23, 2019 at 11:08 am
Ugochukwu Jp exactly my brother, if there is love all these wouldn’t have been necessary, just that nowadays some men are becoming wicked in dealing with women
Marixa Tilla
April 23, 2019 at 11:16 am
Never use Mr Mrs it’s just a title anyone can buy a title
Marixa Tilla
April 23, 2019 at 11:17 am
How can I love this post over again…u said all
Lucy Jones
April 23, 2019 at 11:24 am
My own will simply be Mrs. Lucy nwachinjaranma okoro. Case close.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 11:25 am
@lucy you are funny
Monale Gift
April 23, 2019 at 11:47 am
I’ve not even known where to add my husband’s name here on Facebook talkless on properties and documents?
Abeg make una teach me how not to be selfish.
Arewaoluwa Adejumoke A-Johnson
April 23, 2019 at 6:03 pm
Ugochukwu Jp Mr Tony Obi and his wife bought a lot of properties in Mr and Mrs obi format. After 17 years of marriage with four girls. Mr Tony Obi decided to marry another wife to get a boy. The new girl actually gave birth to a boy and he tranferd all the properties he and Mrs joy acquired in their 17 years to his new wife and the boy. He sent Joy packing with her girls. All properties is in Mr and Mrs Obi. And the new wife is Mrs Obi as well. Think about that! Joy obi lose out. 17 years of marriage!!.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 6:06 pm
your are right anyway
Arewaoluwa Adejumoke A-Johnson
April 23, 2019 at 6:06 pm
Ugochukwu Jp there is diff between joint venture and personal venture sir. Anything I do with my husband on properties stuff. And I contribute to it with my money,sweat etc is joint venture and the documents MUST be full name stuff not just Mr and Mrs Johnson.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 6:10 pm
i understand my dear but let us remove fear n always apply wisdom , understanding ,love n fear of God
Udoh Grace
April 23, 2019 at 6:17 pm
Ugochukwu Jp Wisdom is went you learn from other peoples mistake.
Ugochukwu Jp
April 23, 2019 at 6:23 pm
@grace correct i think we hv learnt alot today
Stellamaris Ojebuoboh
April 23, 2019 at 9:39 am
It’s only a foolish woman will buy properties in her husband’s name.
Egbefama Catherine Aturu
April 23, 2019 at 3:35 pm
Stellamaris Ojebuoboh a very foolish one at that oo
Osariemen Blessing Eboigbe
April 23, 2019 at 9:43 am
It’s a no no
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom
April 23, 2019 at 10:03 am
Father lord! Why in heaven’s name will she be so stupid!!!!
Adejoke Kolajo
April 23, 2019 at 10:05 am
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom you can’t call her stupid. Sometimes we did some things out of plain mind and love before the wall cracked. That is why we learn from other people’s mistake.
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom
April 23, 2019 at 10:10 am
Adejoke Kolajo u did something out of plain mind with a man? No matter d love a man has for a woman or vise versa..its not enough to buy properties in a man’s name when u know anything can happen at anytime…I don’t and can never trust anybody….I will say she’s stupid ova and ova again!!! With all d happenings in dis world? A woman opens her eyes so wide to buy properties in a man’s name? No apologies my dear….
Duruvwe Erhuvwu Blessing
April 23, 2019 at 10:15 am
My sister,we have plenty stupid women like that.our problem is that we can love finish n stupidly but men will apply wisdom
Alarima Iyabo Blessing
April 23, 2019 at 10:21 am
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom…… You are right, when I was growing up I had a boyfriend that I sponsored and in return he impregnate my friend. Now that am wise, even if I get marry will never do such. My next of kin is my brother or my kids
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom
April 23, 2019 at 10:24 am
Alarima Iyabo Blessing God bless you my dear..so sorry bout that…that’s some men for you…never trust a man oooo…..even if d man loves and adores u…hes family nkor? B4 u do anything, think of d future….haba
DJ-Irawo Drummer
April 23, 2019 at 10:33 am
Na lof
Barbara Ogagarue
April 23, 2019 at 10:55 am
My neighbour built a house in her husband’s name and when the man died family carted away with everything. I can’t buy properties in my husband’s name. My papa name dey forbid good thing?
Adejoke Kolajo
April 23, 2019 at 11:02 am
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom your opinion thou. Thank God you won’t do it bcos you are exposed to things happening around us. If you asked those people who fall victim, they weren’t stupid for doing it, but now, they learnt by experience and they have been bitten once and now they are twice shy. I have once been a victim too but it can never happen to me again. You can’t be sure of what you will do unless you are in the shoe. Lucky you thou.
Adejoke Kolajo
April 23, 2019 at 11:05 am
Maryfaith Emmanuel Ekom you see my point here. Was she stupid to have helped out? Not at all. But now, she had learnt from her experience, she can now guide others through. My point is we should not be too fast to judge others of their mistake. It can happen to anybody.
Adejoke Kolajo
April 23, 2019 at 10:04 am
Both name clearly stated, at least another Mrs can’t bear the exact name of the original Mrs. Mr Isaac & Mrs Deborah idowu Ogbonlogba.
Nkechi Anaba
April 23, 2019 at 10:04 am
Yes, married woman can buy properties
Ese Opuama Nwokeji
April 23, 2019 at 10:13 am
Never
Duruvwe Erhuvwu Blessing
April 23, 2019 at 10:20 am
Women should please wise up.
Oleka Nkechi
April 23, 2019 at 10:43 am
i have learned lesson from people mistake
any investment my Father’s name Gbagam
no story or sorry.
Obalola OT
April 23, 2019 at 10:49 am
On behalf of women No they should not
Peaceful Peace
April 23, 2019 at 10:55 am
I will be the last stupid woman to buy any properties using my husband name, even it is spoons, I won’t use his name.
Paragoncandy Well Behaved
April 23, 2019 at 3:06 pm
Peaceful Peace You are Very Correct😂
Peace Raphael
April 23, 2019 at 3:39 pm
Peaceful Peace it’s like all Peace think alike 😎
Peaceful Peace
April 23, 2019 at 3:43 pm
Peace Raphael, my dear, I can’t come and die o, my properties will only belongs to my children and not so call husband that tomorrow he can change his mind and walk away, then I will become a loser, God forbid.
Chi Amaka
April 23, 2019 at 6:49 pm
Peaceful Peace So funny
Even spoons?
Is it that serious?
Peaceful Peace
April 23, 2019 at 8:19 pm
Chi Amaka, my dear, even spoon o, I can’t suffered for another person to enjoy it while my children are there.
Victoria Nathaniel
April 23, 2019 at 10:57 am
I dey learn oooop
Barbara Ogagarue
April 23, 2019 at 11:01 am
No No No, some men can’t be trusted oh, so how would I know my husband will be a saint. My papa name nor dey forbid good thing. Buy your own make I buy my own. Tomorrow family g come act drama on top my sweat it’s Barbara Ogagarue I won’t even try Mr and Mrs whatever.
Some women when they applaud this, maybe man nova do una
shege or una nova experience am.
Otobrise Eyemenokpe Onome
April 23, 2019 at 12:17 pm
Lol
Barbara Ogagarue
April 23, 2019 at 12:19 pm
Otobrise Eyemenokpe Onome my sister n.a. true oh
Zainab Abdullahi
April 26, 2019 at 7:15 am
True talk
Susan Omoragbon
April 23, 2019 at 11:07 am
Absolutely not..it’s not wise,u can tell him about it but never buy it in his name
Victoria Udoh
April 23, 2019 at 6:45 pm
Tell him about what,no oh,I no wan die premature
Chi Amaka
April 23, 2019 at 6:52 pm
Nigerian husband??especially Igbo man?
Tell him and don’t put his name?
Its equal to wahala na,bcos that’s is the day he will start ranting you have started disrespecting me,
This is my house,I built it by myself,
You can’t tell me wat to do,bla bla bla….And you didn’t offend him ooo
But insecurity n jealousy ll invade ur peace
Susan Omoragbon
April 24, 2019 at 9:04 am
Victoria Udoh very funny but it depends on d rapour u hv with ur husband
Susan Omoragbon
April 24, 2019 at 9:08 am
Chi Amaka u r right sha bt l still tink it depends on d relationship u hv with ur husband
Lucy Jones
April 23, 2019 at 11:28 am
With happenings in Nigerian Setting, a woman should buy properties in her full name, just add the title Mrs to it to show you are married to the man.
Tudouboebi Henrietta
April 23, 2019 at 11:36 am
no its a big no.
Alero Tamunokuro
April 23, 2019 at 12:28 pm
For me,as a married woman,my assets will remain in my children’s name.It is a seed I, as their mother is sowing in2their future&which might also be of help2me2mrw.Who knows what tomorrow will bring???I have seen a husband quander his wifez properties after her death just because she bought them in his name.N the helpless children are left2suffer2day….If those properties were in d childrenz name&handled till they are of age2use them,they would still have had sometin2fall back on.So,I cannot buy a property in my husbandz name.
Lizzy Anyanwu
April 23, 2019 at 1:00 pm
I totally agree with you. I will do the same too.
Martha Abanum
April 23, 2019 at 2:13 pm
Put it in ur name because of any legal issues, wen they ‘re of age u can give to them.
Ebunola Ayeola
April 23, 2019 at 12:33 pm
Capital No.
Mosunmola Ayeola Oke-tojinu
April 23, 2019 at 12:46 pm
Sejiro Oke-tojinuSejiro Oke-tojinuSejiro Oke-tojinu
Jennifer Chioma Ekwenugo
April 23, 2019 at 1:43 pm
My name oh, no stories
Bukky Ogunsanu
April 23, 2019 at 2:34 pm
Nah only me waka cum nw ,no be me nd husband
Okunbor Rose
April 23, 2019 at 6:32 pm
No
Obidinanwa Chinyere Felicia
April 23, 2019 at 6:56 pm
Noooooo
Pattrecia Paul
April 23, 2019 at 7:07 pm
With what is happening in dis out country it a CAPITAL NO u get I will rather use my childrens name instead
Obakpororo Agbaire
April 23, 2019 at 7:40 pm
Can’t happen
Joy Momoh
April 23, 2019 at 7:41 pm
Your own name dey forbid better things abi?
Maureen Uveki
April 23, 2019 at 8:09 pm
No
Glowing Ebube Okechukwu
April 23, 2019 at 10:10 pm
CAN’T DO SUCH….I RATHER BUY IT SECRETLY COS U NEVER CAN TELL UR SUGAR BANANA TODAY CAN B BEAST TOMORROW…
Zainab Abdullahi
April 26, 2019 at 7:15 am
Exactly
Oranugo Jane
April 23, 2019 at 10:33 pm
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Funmithy Adedokun
April 24, 2019 at 6:38 am
Even my husband in is dreams we tell people the lady can never you his name lailai
Lilian Uzoma Akuchinyere
April 24, 2019 at 6:46 am
I will if i have the money, by the grace of God no woman will take my place in my husbands house
Sopuruchi Nwaigwe
April 24, 2019 at 7:29 am
Hmm….. Men are evil… Especially those without the fear of God.. ✌️
Baraka Abubakar
April 24, 2019 at 8:49 am
Our mumu don do ooo
Glocy Kachi Chikezie
April 24, 2019 at 2:40 pm
Make God no let person see bad thing.
You can buy with your family name and they may claim it.
buy with married name his people may claim it
it’s advisable to buy with the children name and save their future
Henry Peters
April 24, 2019 at 3:24 pm
Y’all turned marriages into a war zone… I wonder what the so called mothers teach their kids these days
Olunike Dada Omorilewa
April 24, 2019 at 3:46 pm
Ko Jo, me? I can’t oo
Udu-okoro Catherine Chinyere
April 24, 2019 at 8:51 pm
Why will I buy it in my husband’s name? Don’t I have a name, all my properties bears my name
Zainab Abdullahi
April 26, 2019 at 7:28 am
Thank God l still they answer my papa name