Nigerian men seem to be aware that the Nigerian culture, especially in the area of marriage does not favour women as much as the men. It is even sad to note that women are the first suspect when they lose their husbands.
So, asides from the accusations from their husband’s family members, they also get to lose the properties they worked hard together to get with their late husbands.
Nigerian media company, Daily Trust asked a question on twitter about if married women should buy properties in their husband’s names and it sparked a conversation that revealed that the life of a widow is harder than imagined.
— Daily Trust (@daily_trust) April 20, 2019
According to a lot of people, it is better that a married woman buys properties in her own name. According to these people, she can be kicked out of her marriage and her property becomes her husband’s or she can also lose her husband suddenly and her property is forcefully taken away from her by her husband’s family.
Infact, a twitter user, @THATPHCBoy shared some tips on how women, who suddenly lost their husbands can secure their properties before their husband’s family comes calling for them. According to him, women need to protect themselves as the culture of the land already supports the men.
Girls don't play yourselves and I mean this. If you buying property, BUY IT IN YOUR NAME. Nigerian laws will not protect you in the event of a divorce, you can loose everything. Heck he can even die and his family will toss you and the female kids out into the streets. https://t.co/jMMVCexNB0
— ThatPortharcourtBoy (@ThatPHCBoy) April 20, 2019
If any woman loses her husband and her relatives are quick to bundle her to the village, she should refuse. Sort out valuables first and move them to a safe place. Lock the house and change the locks before going for the funeral
— ThatPortharcourtBoy (@ThatPHCBoy) April 20, 2019
Some men also shared stories, advising women to be smarter about this issue.
compensation… guess who started dying? Yup!! You guessed it right. The women and guess who was showing up to collect the money before they even found their dead bodies.. women put you first o, not your husband or your kids, but you THEN anyone else can follow
— ᴡᴏʀʟᴅsᴛᴜᴅᴇɴᴛ💭 (@teachableknower) April 20, 2019
I know of a Woman who acquired assets worth billions in her husband’s name and got kicked out of her marriage of 35yrs without anything to her name. Sad that she began to depend on others for survival. Not that I was told, I know.
— Wole (@wolexzzo) April 21, 2019
Also if your husband wants to buy joint assets ensure that your name is on it in this format; Mr and Mrs (your first name) Surname. I.e. Mr and Mrs Yetunde Chukwuma. This is because your husband can remarry and another woman can also be Mrs Chukwuma.
— Ozymandias (@CHIZY_N) April 21, 2019
My very Nigerian uncle who doesn’t trust Nigerians buys everything in his wife’s name.
— Oko @cer_lliey (@zaizhoe) April 21, 2019
This shouldn’t even be an issue. When you’re buying property it’s only wise to use your name. My name nor forbid property na. Women, protect yourselves. Don’t shoot yourselves in the foot.
— Cai (@PrincessOnome) April 21, 2019
Buy it in your name ladies, and if you decide to buy it together make sure your name is spelt out correctly, don’t go and use Mr. & Mrs. Okeke, you might not be the only Mrs. Okeke ooh.
— Ahmarkah.Chuk(Ogo) (@ahmarkah) April 21, 2019
If as a woman you have a business and you make money.. if you are buying property it is your right to buy it in your name. Ladies don’t let any man tell you otherwise.. just like I can decide not to put my wife as a director in my company..it’s nothing personal..
— Sullivan bin Ezike (@kokopelli_Iam) April 20, 2019
Also use your full name o! First, middle and surname. Especially if you went and changed your surname. It’s very easy to find and marry another Bimbo.
— Awesome. (@Awksomekid) April 21, 2019
I’m a man. And my answer is NO. If you like, ignore this advice. You’ll one day wish you never did.
— daramola Seyifunmi. (@dara_seyifunmi) April 20, 2019
Married women should buy in their name, married men should buy in their wife’s name and both man and wife should jointly buy in the wife’s name. We have seen enough to know why!!!
— Tope Ogunbi (@topeogunbi) April 20, 2019
I believe the woman should buy properties in her name preferably out of caution. Her husband should be aware of this and I think it’s also wise for husbands to buy properties in his wife’s or children’s names when possible.
— grant ojijieme (@grant_ojijieme) April 21, 2019
A good man will want you to buy it in your name and also buy some for you in your name… Isn’t that the goal?? 🤔
— God’s Son (@HayWhy_Tops) April 21, 2019
Her properties belongs to her n her kids while her husbands properties belongs to everyone,so its better its all in her name so it doesn’t end up in another person hand….
— Salisu (@SalisuKareem) April 20, 2019
What belongs to the husband, also belongs to the wife, But what belongs to the wife is hers alone.
That being said, If a woman wants to buy a property in her husband’s name, it should be her choice…not by force or compulsion.
To be safe…buy it Your name & let him know.
— 🅰zubikeⓂaduka (@zubykelz) April 21, 2019