Pastor Anita’s Article About Dying Marriages Is Heartbreaking But True


In the latest article on her blog, Pastor Anita talks about “…the reality of a dead marriage, where a spouse spends many years of endless hope in anticipation for a change, enduring a relationship that is bereft of life.”

According to her, this situation used to be somebody’s experience and is also another person’s present state of affair.

The article, which is titled, Happy Anniversary to the best couple in the world,” has been shared over 3000 times on Facebook.

Read the article below

Wife: Hello

Husband: How are you?

Wife: I amgood. How is your day?

Husband: Good

Wife: Today is our anniversary. Happy Anniversary.

Husband: Happy anniversary.

Wife: I noticed many greetings on social media wishing us a happy anniversary. I find it confusing to read comments from your close friends saying “ best couple in the world”; it sounds like a complete joke, when they know we rarely see each other. We see each other at most ten days in a year; I can’t understand their reason for making this comment, such flattery. It is confusing to me.

Husband: Well, at least they sent their greetings.

Wife: Their greetings are on social media, no contact by text or by email.

Husband: Silence

Wife: Hello

Husband: Yes

Wife: I sometimes wonder if we are married. There is nothing more to this relationship to indicate we are married apart from a ring on my finger; the ring is another story, and our pictures are interjected because we are rarely together to take a proper picture. I feel sad that we are not together.

Husband: Look, I have told you over and over again that we cannot live in the same country because we are very busy andone countryis too small for both of us. I expect you should be able to figure that out.

Wife: One country is too small for us?

Husband: Yes and you keep coming back to ask the same question.

Wife: Okay. Since you don’t often call either, please call the children, at least once a month. They go on for months without speaking with you. I noticed they don’t seem to care anymore.

Husband: Okay

Wife: That is about all.

Husband: Silence (breathing sound)

Wife: Have a beautiful day.

Husband: Silence (breathing sound)

Wife: Bye

Husband: Silence (breathing sound)

Wife: Hello

Husband: Silence (Goes off the Phone)

Wife: Okay



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  1. Lovelyn Ifunanya

    Lovelyn Ifunanya

    April 26, 2019 at 11:56 am

    Lord take control

  2. NK NK

    NK NK

    April 26, 2019 at 12:20 pm


  3. Violet Achafu Okonkwo

    Violet Achafu Okonkwo

    April 26, 2019 at 1:36 pm

    We stay in the so called dead marriages for the sanity of our children. It nothing to be bitter about.

  4. Chikas Plangtok

    Chikas Plangtok

    April 26, 2019 at 1:49 pm

    This is a sad one. may God help us

  5. Jennifer Ezinne Jendon

    Jennifer Ezinne Jendon

    April 26, 2019 at 3:00 pm

    Hmmm… This is indeed sad!
    May God come to the aid of failing marriages, amen.

  6. Wealthy Efe

    Wealthy Efe

    April 26, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    Most marriages these days are certainly devoid of life. Our parents did better.
    It is frightening how 2 persons live together as a couple and yet do not have a relationship. Where did we go wrong???

  7. Jane Lawani

    Jane Lawani

    April 26, 2019 at 3:47 pm

    Everyone is asking God to take control of what he has giving us control. Truth is people are selfish, marriage can’t work on selfishness. True happiness is all about sacrifice and hard work. The question is are people ready to sacrifice, are they ready for hardwork. God can’t take control when you are not ready to give up self.

  8. Jovita Egwu

    Jovita Egwu

    April 26, 2019 at 4:08 pm

    But they looked so happy. Chai

  9. Elizabeth Iweanoge

    Elizabeth Iweanoge

    April 26, 2019 at 5:33 pm

    The root problem has not been solved. Lack of maturity. When u lack it, there won’t be comprises, sacrifice and dialogue. The three word that saves marriage also the three that kills it too.

  10. Imaobong Adewole

    Imaobong Adewole

    April 26, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    Is now a trend for couples to live apart ,l totally disagreed with this ,we were to live together till death part us at our good old age ,where you live your wife or husband for years ,Satan will definitely jump into such marriage, either we relocate together ,or we stay here,when the kids are grown ,let them go

    • Onyemere Kenneth Chibueze

      Onyemere Kenneth Chibueze

      April 26, 2019 at 7:34 pm

      Imaobong Adewole a situation where you are on posting as a civil servant and you wife also works in government what will you do,will you resign your government work .it is not an easy decision to take really .

  11. Chibuzo Ezima

    Chibuzo Ezima

    April 26, 2019 at 7:06 pm

    Marriage is commitment and sacrifice! God had given us freewill to make rational choices we should stop disturbing Him with our selfishness and insensitivity.
    Husband and wife should take responsibility for the success or failure of thier union

  12. Ralph Irekponor

    Ralph Irekponor

    April 26, 2019 at 7:19 pm

    Lawyer! Which side are you supporting

    • Chibuzo Ezima

      Chibuzo Ezima

      April 26, 2019 at 7:46 pm

      Ralph Irekponor I am on the side fairness and equity. 😁

    • Tonie Nonso Onyemaizu

      Tonie Nonso Onyemaizu

      April 27, 2019 at 7:28 am

      Chibuzo Ezima I guarantee that this fairness and equity is relative and peculiar to the author.

    • Chibuzo Ezima

      Chibuzo Ezima

      April 27, 2019 at 7:38 am

      Tonie Nonso Onyemaizu Well you may be right!
      Me thinks the author needs to heal whatever it was that transpired in that marriage left her very wounded.

  13. Onyemere Kenneth Chibueze

    Onyemere Kenneth Chibueze

    April 26, 2019 at 7:48 pm

    It is the primary responsibility of the couple to work out their salvation. God has finished the work and given us the will to our choices.
    He will not do what we can do .
    Friendship, closeness ,tolerance, forgiveness, humility is the key to success in marriage.
    Offences will surely come in diverse manner but ability to allow ego to be humiliated and above all having the mind of Christ, Jesus is love .
    He forgave us ,he gave his only son to die for us .
    Every child of God should show example.
    The problem is that most of us are just in church but Christ is not in us .
    Marriage has no formula, because what works for Kenneth may not work for Clara ,however our ability to know and under study the peculiarities of our spouse and know how to follow them ,is the key to a happy marriage.

  14. Maria Kaine

    Maria Kaine

    April 26, 2019 at 8:14 pm

    Many are hurting.
    A shame that those meant to lead by example are also just humand.

  15. Adaugo Ubechu Jude

    Adaugo Ubechu Jude

    April 26, 2019 at 8:35 pm

    It is well. Our Christianity today will say a there is no divorce in the Bible. A wise woman builds her home. Depression is killing someone.

    • Stella Nkoli Uwechia

      Stella Nkoli Uwechia

      April 27, 2019 at 3:36 am

      Adaugo Ubechu Jude is building a home left only to the woman?

    • Adaugo Ubechu Jude

      Adaugo Ubechu Jude

      April 27, 2019 at 4:11 am

      Stella Nkoli Uwechia my sister Na woman they always take blame. Not man.

  16. Ezeabasili Nana

    Ezeabasili Nana

    April 27, 2019 at 12:10 am

    You should know that when you are called of God you ceased to be your own or some else, you now God’s own child his

  17. Shalom Ogbonnaya

    Shalom Ogbonnaya

    April 27, 2019 at 7:15 am

    May God help us

  18. Queen Chiamaka

    Queen Chiamaka

    April 28, 2019 at 4:15 pm

    This is a case of selfishness and insensitivity. The man is so full of himself and doesn’t care a bit about his family.

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