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Bimbo Akintola Is Outspoken About This One Thing Many Single Women Think About But Are Afraid To Talk About

   

 

Should your dreams of becoming a mother be solely dependant on getting married? What if you never find Mr Right? These are the questions many single women ask especially as they approach 40 and their biological clock ticks away.

In an interview with Punch, Bimbo speaks candidly on why it is okay for single women to consider having children.

On the society mounting pressure on her as regards marriage

I guess these questions arise because of the country we live in and the kind of people we are. It’s also something I think we need to look at critically because it seems we are creating more trouble for people, as marriages are now crashing within six months or even less. This is partly because society puts a lot of pressure on people to get married. Shouldn’t we take a step backwards and ask ourselves what we are doing wrong. It’s not about how soon, but how well? I think it’s time we realised that marriage is such a serious thing. Shouldn’t we allow people to make their choices by themselves, without pressure? Parents should stop putting pressure on their children. Many women are divorced now and in some cases, there is serious fight and both of them would be fighting over the custody of the child. We need to start changing the way we look at marriage. It’s important we get married but marry at your own time.

On having a child when not married

Of course, I can. Definitely I can do it because I don’t see anything wrong with it. Things are changing in the world at large. If you look around, you would find a lot of women are having babies and taking care of themselves. It’s everywhere. There are women who are not actors but are single mothers, and for a lot of people I think it’s about their biological clock. Instead of waiting for manna from heaven and you know there is no manna, and you feel the need to have children, then do it.

We have to change our thinking, due to the time. You can’t be rooted in the past when the present and future are a totally different place. If you look at what is going on now, there are women looking for husband but can’t find. So would you now say because of that they shouldn’t have children? That’s unnecessary and it’s like making them suffer twice. I think for anybody that wants to have children, as long as you know you are capable of taking care of them financially and emotionally, why not.

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19 Comments

19 Comments

  1. Abdul Modaneji

    Abdul Modaneji

    April 22, 2017 at 8:49 am

    Everything Is Frm Gud

  2. Chichi Otabor

    Chichi Otabor

    April 22, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    All dos waiting for mr right n Mr left. Com n hear dis. Better do wat u hv to do. No 🕛

  3. Zinny Blessing

    Zinny Blessing

    April 22, 2017 at 1:52 pm

    Women shuld Be allowed to make life time choices lyk marraige at d tym deemed right by them. N d worse is dis marraidge scandal n issues everyer affects women more dan the men. If mr right comes along fine and if he dosnt den life goes on

  4. Chukwuma Okpala

    Chukwuma Okpala

    April 22, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    Madam bimbo, what stops u from having them now

  5. Erhabor Jennifer

    Erhabor Jennifer

    April 22, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    Bring single does nt mean u should also remain childless

  6. Erhabor Jennifer

    Erhabor Jennifer

    April 22, 2017 at 2:01 pm

    True talk mama

  7. Anita Odeh

    Anita Odeh

    April 22, 2017 at 4:36 pm

    Why would any respectable woman be willing to condescend to sleep with a man who doesn’t think she’s deserving of marriage but only good enough to have children with him? You don’t mind assuming the status of a single parent by a man who has his family and would never spend a full day with you and your child or children just because you want to have children. That is not a noble mindset.

    • Obinna Osmond

      Obinna Osmond

      April 22, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      Godbless u!

    • Irene Oma

      Irene Oma

      April 23, 2017 at 8:12 am

      Did you open the link at all before commenting, this is not about men or what they think. Its about the single woman who is not finding Mr. Right. Is it necessary for her bloodline to close down? Is it OK for her not to produce a young one for herself if she has what it takes to cater for such baby? Should she die childless or allow herself to hit menopause (which seems draw closer than usual in women today) when she could have done something? Or dont you hear of women who never married? Ok..or should she tie down herself in one loveless/misguided marriage because of the need to be under a mans roof before you can have a kid so that the society won’t discriminate. Babies re gifts from God. If a woman isnt lucky enough to marry, no one should have to be denied the joy of carrying her child. Thank you

  8. Maria Ijeoma

    Maria Ijeoma

    April 22, 2017 at 7:00 pm

    anita you are not saying the right thing,there is nothing wrong with having children when u are not married,u can have children wheather married or not every thing is by choice provided u have money to take care of them.besides if the husband did not come and the person gets old who will take care of her.?i am a married woman and i understand the pains the advanced unmarried lady goes through,so if that will make her happy let her do it

  9. Uzoma Akabike

    Uzoma Akabike

    April 22, 2017 at 8:07 pm

    Simple truth…..If you can’t have a husband of choice nuttin should stop you from having a baby if you desire

  10. Edeh Mary Oyifie

    Edeh Mary Oyifie

    April 23, 2017 at 10:01 am

    Freedom of speech, white is white, any one who sees white as black must be blind. Any child bore out of a forbidden union is cursed by God, he said they will amount to nothing, why will u bring out a child who can not be accepted by his or her supposed family? Babes dnt be carried away by unnecessary emotions that culd cost us our life time peace.blessed is the breast that has not been sucken so long we remain faithful. Bearing children is not the only way to multiply oo, adopt if u like kids and can take of them.but not have them outside marriage is worse than abortion. That’s my take ppl.

    • Hilda Obidei

      Hilda Obidei

      April 23, 2017 at 8:28 pm

      Hello Mary, I know about ppl born out of wedlock and they are doing well. Serving God and married with kids. Where is the curse now

  11. Kikelomo Modupetemi Akinwande

    Kikelomo Modupetemi Akinwande

    April 23, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    True talk

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  13. Safiya Mansur

    Safiya Mansur

    April 29, 2020 at 5:05 pm

    Women of complications 🤦

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