A twitter user, @Samiralsimbi made a case for priests who make the statement, “you may now kiss the bride,” instead of saying, “you may kiss each other.” According to her, the first statement is patriarchal and has to be dismantled.
Just as expected, her tweet led to a conversation of different opinions as some are shocked by her opinion while some think that her point is valid.
Here’s her tweet
Do you guys realise how problematic it is for the pastor/priest to say “you may now kiss the bride”?
I mean did the woman give you the consent to kiss her?
CONSENT, CONSENT.
The society will never let us rest…. and we will keep DISRUPTING the patriarchy
— ISIMBI (@SamiraIsimbi) March 29, 2019
let both of them to participate in that action. (you may kiss each other)
I have the issue with the sentence “you may kiss the bride” which is only addressed to the man not the woman.
what if she doesn’t want to kiss him (which doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to marry him)
— ISIMBI (@SamiraIsimbi) March 29, 2019
According to the people who are shocked by @Samiralsimbi’s tweet, they argued that the ‘I do’ by the bride already covers for that.
Stop. Your position is absurd. It’s one thing to feel it is archaic to say “kiss the bride”. But to suggest consent is required makes you look dumb. You should keep such idiocy to yourself.
— Bossy for Unborn Babies (@LiveWiseLifeNow) March 31, 2019
I mean it’s a wedding between two consenting partners to finally Legally form a union.. hence it being “pre” consented ? But what do I kno
— Sach (@tenchainzz) March 29, 2019
Now I gotta go ask my married friends, sister and sister in law if they were married without their consent.
— Kelso (@KelseyRyan77) March 30, 2019
Oh Lord, y’all can be so exhausting. How is that now partrichal? Why would she marry a person that she doesn’t want to be kissed by? ??
— Sinethemba Mazibuko (@Snett_M) March 31, 2019
The mere fact that you chose to stand at the alter means that you have also consented to kissing the groom. If not, you would have stayed at home. ?♀️
— Zvikomborero Jakara (@ZviqoRuvajakara) March 30, 2019
So the part where the groom and all his relatives prostrate (during the traditional wedding) to the bride and her family is no problem at all?? Y’all with your one sided feminism?
— E•T•T•A? (@Strictlyetta) March 30, 2019
If she consented to marry him, it’s a safe bet she is consenting to being kissed by him.
— Kimberly Gallella (@kgallella) March 31, 2019
She’s not being sarcastic anything. It’s sad that my generation wants to question everything just so they can seem “cool” on social media
Sad.— rik art-senz. ☢️☣️ (@rikartsenz1) March 31, 2019
Smh. To the untrained eye, you sound quite intelligent on this dear.
It’s sad how ur watering the struggle of gender equality to ceremonial acts of love and marriage. Pls pick a struggle if u don’t know what to do.
— Elijah Jayson Oyibu (@jaysonrogue) March 30, 2019
You mean the part AFTER the pastor/priest asks for each party to CONSENT to the marriage and they each literally say, “I DO” or the wedding doesn’t proceed to any kiss? SMH
— Teacloc @ #PaxEast (@Teacloc) March 30, 2019
No this is not disrupting patriarchy. There’s nothing problematic there. Consent has already been given and a kiss seals the deal.
— Tendile (@charitygiy) March 31, 2019
I always understood it as the words are meant with the utmost respect of the women in mind. Since the man (or women) has now committed their heart, soul & rest of their existence on earth to being with her, they now have earned the right to kiss her
— Not It (@FireCrotch58) March 31, 2019
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