Running around with his usual abundance of energy, my two and a half-year-old, at the time, stopped to ask, ”Mummy are you happy?” Hmmm… I thought, interesting question. I wondered what triggered him to ask.
I knew he was a super sensitive child who had always noticed the feelings of others, so I questioned whether he had sensed there was a slight adjustment to my mood at that moment.
To be honest, I was finding his energy levels a struggle, feeling slightly tired after work. Although I did not want him to know, so my response was, ”Yes baby, I am happy.”
The thought of him asking endeared my heart. He is such a sensitive child, and I love this about his nature.
This would be the first of him asking this question many times over. My son would go on to ask me every day from that moment for many months to come, ”Mummy are you happy?”
As I fast-forward and reflect on this question, I realize the significance of asking myself, ”Mummy, are you happy?”
It is a question, which requires me to take my eyes off the busyness of being a working mum, be present, and look at the condition of my heart. What am I feeling right now? Am I happy? What is making me feel happy or sad at this very moment?
As our son transitioned this week into preschool, my husband and I began to observe some of the fruits of our daily nurturing of his confidence. We had a quiet reassurance that he would love the environment, being born extremely sociable, he always thrives being around his peers and meeting new people.
We wondered if we will receive a phone call to pick him up early or if he will manage the entire day without our assistance? You can guess what happened… He did not need mummy or daddy to pick him up early, and he did not want to leave the environment; he had such an amazing experience.
When I asked my son, did you miss mummy, he said NO.
This made me chuckle, but also I felt a sense of unpreparedness for his acceleration. We had prepared him for independence, but it came a lot sooner than we had expected.
Our son has been thriving, I mean, his happiness and levels of joy have increased exponentially.
Observing such joy and happiness as our son recounted the stories of his experience, I asked him why he was so happy.
He pointed to me first, then his daddy.
I said, ‘Son, do you know what makes me so happy?’ I pointed to him and said, ”son, it’s YOU.”
As his joy has scaled, so has ours. Being a working mum, who works full-time and pours out daily into my family, the stress can at times seem insurmountable, but, today I remembered, as my son pointed his finger towards me in response to my question, that my joy comes from seeing his development.
I hope you too find satisfaction and happiness in nurturing your children. They can bring us so much joy in the most unexpected moments, and as you pour into them, they will pour right back into you.
Today was a source of encouragement.
Enjoy your special moments together and develop them to be people who love others.
About The Writer
Sonia Omojola is a wife, mother of a 4-year-old son, and storyteller. She is passionate about motherhood and encouraging mothers along their journey via uplifting blogs, powerful poems, and stories.
Sonia believes that it truly takes a community to raise children and her passion is to build a strong community of mothers, who are valued, encouraged, inspired in their creativity, and in spending quality time with those she loves.
My upcoming adult fantasy novel is called ‘The Purple Potion’ will be released soon.
Sonia is always looking to collaborate and speak with mothers and women and can be contacted via firstname.lastname@example.org.
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